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We’re currently in a dating app era & the idea behind dating apps seems practical yet you hear more bad than good things about them. Almost 30 & I’ve never been in a LTR, I have accomplished everything I currently want out of life but been able to find a quality guy. I’ve owned a condo & strive to eventually own a home in a few years, are dating apps to blame behind being single or is there more to it (aka am I the issue)? I’ve been told I’m attractive by all kinds of people for a good chunk of my life but I’ve never been approached in person by a guy I’d like to date (getting checked out doesn’t count).
The only times guys I find attractive have acknowledged me were on dating apps, it’s just there’s times where maybe I feel burnt out & can’t be bothered to end up meeting that guy in person.

Or when I feel like I have *options*/ I’m in a mood where I just don’t want to put in the effort. And when the app outlook looks dismal at a given moment (like now), I consider deleting & reinstalling at a later time. I get bored after communicating too long etc, it may seem like self sabotage topped with my terrible anxiety but I’ve never felt SO unsure about something in my life & that *something* is dating. Unsure if my lack of libido/lack of interest in being sexual might play a part (no health issues). There’s always that voice in the back of my mind that makes me think the right guy will change all of that but who really knows. I’m worried I’ll be shriveled up & when I finally have that drive, it’ll be too late to find a match. I heard an influencer say the other day that there shouldn’t be pressure or a rush to date, it’s an opportunity that’ll always be available.

TL; DR: Is dating hard for most? And is my case bad luck or someone unsure of what she wants?

It sounds silly but he’s in his late 40’s and recently divorced….
He seems to flirt back, been complementing me more recently. He called me smart and then his cheeks went red and he looked down.

He seems to enjoy my flirting (he has a big smile on his face when I flirt) and he’s been blushing a lot around me lately… and conversations have started getting deeper. I dunno.

What’s the chances that he likes me back?

I think I am too young for him though 🤷🏼‍♀️

Also he’s not conventionally attractive and a bit out of shape so maybe he hasn’t made a move because he doesn’t think I actually like him? Not sure. Or maybe he’s not interested?

I also tell him a bit about my sexual experiences and funny sex stories and he’ll happily sit there and listen with a smile on his face… surely he would’ve said something if I had crossed a line? Or changed the subject?

He’s a very sweet man and he sometimes seems quite nervous around me. I’d also say he’s sensitive and a bit submissive. Which I find adorable. 🥰
But something strange is that he calls me mate over text… hmmm…. Is he trying to make it clear that he only sees me as a mate? Or would he just call everyone mate?