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Some people like to focus on only one person at a time where other people like to date multiple people. I don’t think I see an issue with it although I would feel weird to be dating someone who is dating like 10 people and was having sex with all of them- even if we weren’t having sex that would be disgusting to me. I wouldn’t want to touch them at all like even to kiss. 🤢

I think it’s probably good for some people who need a lot of attention because if you’re just in the beginning stages of getting to know someone you don’t wanna be super all over them, but you might have.. I don’t know attention needs so in that case dating a whole bunch of people until you narrow it down to someone you really get along with and may compliment your need for attention -or whatever - that might work out well. You can just replace attention with any other thing that you might need a lot of that you can’t really dump on someone in the beginning of getting to know them.

I don’t know that I could date people at once. I think it would be really exhausting, but I could see the merit in it for other people to do that.

I’m not referring to playing people. I’m referring to the situation where everyone is above board and you know if they’re dating other people and they know if you’re dating other people and if I got to the point where you wanted to have a relationship with a particular person, then you would stop seeing other people and they would stop seeing other people.

30F and I don’t think I’ll ever shake my core belief that any decently presentable lady has no prob finding a man, a pretty girl well forget about it. I’m very reserved, I’ve always been but was *friendlier* in my early twenties, now I’m borderline antisocial. I always blamed growing up overweight as the reason why I didn’t get attention from guys/wasn’t popular, I lost weight in my early twenties and have maintained my weight loss since (still slim thick). Again, this weight loss didn’t change the attention I got from guys & I was a bit more sociable back then.

I’m told I’m attractive (from all kinds of people for most of my life & not only family/friends) & the only times attractive guys take initiative are on dating apps. And apps are absolute trash as we know, guys I’d find attractive in person have never made it known to me directly. It’s always that RARE occasion where I think one is maybe making eye contact or someone I knew pointed out a guy was looking at me/word of mouth this or that guy found me attractive etc. Then on dating apps, I’d have guys that I initially considered *potential* eventually showing interest in me (asking out etc) after I got to know them a bit more and I just find a way to dip out.

Im so conflicted. I feel invisible & when a guy appeals to me in some way on a dating app (which should be taken with a grain of salt), I just can’t be bothered for whatever the reason is for me at that moment. It’s apathy/anxiety/self sabotage/confusion etc?

We grew up together… I liked him as a teen he paid me no attention… we followed eachother on social media and he was active on my page at the time….

We never had eachothers number but I had a dream about him and he had been on my mind…. That Thanksgiving he had got my number and he said “hey ****, this is ****…. Just wanted to say happy Thanksgiving 🦃 love you!