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So this is the same guy from my last post, I’ll just start by saying both of us have a massive ego and a lot of pride esp when it comes to texting first.

He works in a fast food shop where I’m a regular customer at. Anyways recently he started ignoring my texts (he told me he doesn’t make time for people that don’t make time for him as I wasn’t meeting him outside work) so I stopped messaging him, he barely messages me first unless it’s to tell me to sneak out of the shop to meet him for a little while as his boss doesn’t allow us to talk. That’s what’s so confusing he can sound so cold and uninterested but will literally risk his job just to see me for a little bit. Needless to say, we haven’t texted in 3 weeks (and I’ve not gone to his shop during this time either) since I stopped messaging first.

i haven’t met him outside work although he’s asked to see me , due to our schedules not being compatible and every time he asked to see me he was inviting me over to his place but it’s like he never wants to talk over text and doesn’t seem interested (over text) . Thing is though he gets so jealous when other guys hit on me and he always stares at me and when we have phone calls he’s so sweet and different.
I sometimes wonder if he’s trying to use reverse psychology to get with me or just trying to get in my pants. However if it was sex he wanted why would he still be talking to me 6 months later when he hasn’t gotten anything sexual from me and I’ve told him I’m waiting until marriage.

He always asks me to come chill at his place and said he’d cook for me and we could watch a movie or something but I don’t go to his place as I don’t want to get used for sex and I can’t tell if that his intention or not. Thing is he works night shifts and sleeps through the day or when he’s free I have classes so that’s really only the option he has but I still think if a guy really likes you he will make time.

Please be brutally honest so I can save myself the heartbreak.

So this is the same guy from my last post, I’ll just start by saying both of us have a massive ego and a lot of pride esp when it comes to texting first.

He works in a fast food shop where I’m a regular customer at. Anyways recently he started ignoring my texts (he told me he doesn’t make time for people that don’t make time for him as I wasn’t meeting him outside work) so I stopped messaging him, he barely messages me first unless it’s to tell me to sneak out of the shop to meet him for a little while as his boss doesn’t allow us to talk. That’s what’s so confusing he can sound so cold and uninterested but will literally risk his job just to see me for a little bit. Needless to say, we haven’t texted in 3 weeks (and I’ve not gone to his shop during this time either) since I stopped messaging first.

i haven’t met him outside work although he’s asked to see me , due to our schedules not being compatible and every time he asked to see me he was inviting me over to his place but it’s like he never wants to talk over text and doesn’t seem interested (over text) . Thing is though he gets so jealous when other guys hit on me and he always stares at me and when we have phone calls he’s so sweet and different.
I sometimes wonder if he’s trying to use reverse psychology to get with me or just trying to get in my pants. However if it was sex he wanted why would he still be talking to me 6 months later when he hasn’t gotten anything sexual from me and I’ve told him I’m waiting until marriage.

He always asks me to come chill at his place and said he’d cook for me and we could watch a movie or something but I don’t go to his place as I don’t want to get used for sex and I can’t tell if that his intention or not. Thing is he works night shifts and sleeps through the day or when he’s free I have classes so that’s really only the option he has but I still think if a guy really likes you he will make time.

Please be brutally honest so I can save myself the heartbreak.

28F, I gamed online frequently with two guys for a little over 2 years. We never met in person & over time the two of them stopped playing as frequently. Now I ended up unfriending one in Dec 2022 bc over time I got irritated with him. While he was clearly a better gamer, he came across as arrogant at times & if there’s one thing I can’t handle it’s a conceited man. He wished me merry Christmas, I didn’t answer & he follows up maybe a month after on IG. He acknowledged that I unfriended him & wanted to know why, I was blunt & he apologized etc. It was a mature conversation & shortly after he tells me that his apartment burnt down after an electrical fire. He’s complained about the complex for the whole time I knew him but for it to end that way is absolutely insane. By the time we talked about it he already moved into his new place, confirmed his ps5 was safe & we left it at that. I checked google & there was a go fund me page for he & his wife. This conversation was in Jan this year & we haven’t spoken since, I added him back on the PlayStation app maybe a month later. He’s been online but not as often, we’d usually talk most of the time he was online but he hasn’t reached out & I feel awkward. I see him online & we’re playing the same game too but nothing. It may seem like an obvious AITA post but tbh if he didn’t say that conceited shit when we were still talking I’d very very likely check in with him by now. I haven’t gotten over it completely, even though I accepted his apology 🤷🏻‍♀️