Why am I like this?

[Anonymous]

So me and this girl ended up liking each other in the past and it didn’t work out because I mentally felt played and unwanted because she spent so much time with her guy friend than me. I tried to talk about it and call her out on it but she blocked me for awhile. So then she kept asking for me back and how sorry she was for months and I caved in finally and we said we’d work on being just friends and that she cut that dude off. Things were fine we set boundaries to slowly build a friendship again and it was working but the other day she said she talked to that same guy friend again and apologized to me about it. I tried being cool and not a controlling person and said it’s okay to talk to him it is what it is but it’s killing me inside like why can’t I stop overthinking it? why can’t I let it go? I don’t want to be that jealous guy and tell her she can’t talk to him since we’re just friends but after he got brought up again the past of her hurting me with him multiple times keeps making me insecure again and not trust her again I can’t get the idea of them talking again out of my head am I crazy? I tried not thinking about it but can’t.

[Anonymous]

Like what? Normal? If you have a problem with her talking to him their's got to be a distressing reason. And more importantly she claims to care about you. Why would she be talking to that guy if she KNOWS it displeased you? Turn the tables would you talk to another woman if you knew it displeased her? Well there you go then man. Some women will do this man. They will make you seem irrational when your reaction is very rational.

IMHO what you need to do is do some soul searching. You need to decide how much this woman means to you. Then you need to decide what you're willing to accept and what you're not. Then you need to communicate that to her. And you need to be ok with the possibility of her saying, "yeah, I'm not going to do that". And you got to be ok with walking away.

Know who you are and what you deserve man. Good luck!

[Asker]

I really appreciate it man and agree completely just don’t have anyone to talk to so it means a lot!

[Opinion Owner]

Np man, that's what we're here for. Respect is a two way street. Don't remain with a woman who doesn't want to give you it. There are plenty of women in this world who will. Respect is a two way street.