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She always feels like she's being judged. She feels fat when she's not at all, but at the same time, she feels like she has a pretty face, good job, and a good singing voice although she has stage fright. She also can't admit when she's wrong and ragingly gaslights to "win" the argument and then dismisses anything anyone else has to say unless... someone like me who has experience with her can listen to her side and calmly express my viewpoints. This doesn't always work either, and I really don't want to deal with it sometimes.

By the way, I love my sister, and she is far from the worst person in the world. I do think she usually is a good person, but she has these moments that just annoy me because they just don't make any sense. I'm wondering how unique this is or if it is not at all. Personally I don't think her behavior is rare, but please feel free to chime in.

Please share if you have any solutions.

Sometimes I get “tough love” when it comes to questions, opinions or posts I put up.

Now I can tell the difference between someone who just gets off on being condescending or controlling vs. giving me tough yet selfless advice.

The former will usually immediately throw in insults, labels and almost never offers constructive logic on how to improve or why I might be mistaken. I will never listen to that nor take the seriously. Even if they might be right I will never be won over with insults (who would?)

That latter will take time to read my all the details of my question and will often ask more details before judging. When they criticize they don’t get any enjoyment out of it. Rather they use logic to cogently express how I could be wrong and use facts to back it up. I might not like what they are saying (and can be harsh) but it might give me pause if they bring up good points to support their argument

Anyway I hate to be sexist but I find that women struggle with ego more often then men when it comes to getting criticism on what they want to hear vs. NEED to hear. This is especially true in scenarios that involve cheating.

I also find that women have a harder time taking criticism when a political issue involves logic vs. emotion.