Why do men act weird and compete with eachother for my attention?

[Anonymous]

I've been alone my entire life. Outcast, bullied and all that crap. Bullied well into adulthood.

Well so many years later things are finally different. They went the complete opposite direction.

If I end up talking to multiple guys in a group, all of them will start talking over eachother trying to get my attention. All of them ignoring eachother and trying to get me to listen to themselves.

And I'm just like, what the literal fuck is this bizarre world that I've entered?

I actually can't stand men sometimes. Like wtf is wrong with y'all?

I'm glad I have female friends now. They're not weirdos and they don't compete for my attention and beg to be my friend.

It's fucking bizarre the way they act. It's absolutely unbelievable. I don't know why they're so obsessed with me.

I grew up a loser treated like absolute shit well into adulthood, and now the tables have turned and men are obsessed with me.

And honestly after being alone my elite life, I want to stay alone. I don't want any friends. Especially if they're weirdos like so many I've met in the past 5 or so years.

[SteveSmith1985]

It's funny, I've been talking to a girl who had a similar experience of "becoming attractive" later in life. I asked her about her experience expecting her to have a similar view to the one you expressed here. Oddly enough she didn't really seem to have too many ill-feeling towards men in general. That frankly surprised me, because I can understand how she/you might.

Guys act different around a girl they think is attractive (don't worry girls do that too, they just do it in a different way).

But seeing that change must be really unsettling. To be treated one way for so long, only to see how differently guys treat you now. You're the exact same person. I can appreciate how that would make almost any interest in you seem shallow or insincere... because it's clearly only due to how you look... where were these guys when you were the exact same girl... but weren't seen as attractive.

Coupled with that, is the fact that about 50% of guys are just fucking idiots. So that may very-well be at-play here too. Guys will treat you different, even good guys. But idiots... they can really be idiots.

I'm not sure if you've got yourself a bunch of idiots there. I can't quite tell what sort of guys these are. But... I do want to caution you not to judge all men as idiots... just because you happened upon some idiots. There are different kinds of guys, just like there are different kinds of girls.

I hope you're able to find some happy medium someday. Attention you don't want can be just as bad as not getting the attention you wish you'd get. But if guys aren't idiots... they'll not be idiots even though you're hot now. You may have to do a bit of digging to get past the idiots though. The idiots tend to be loud about it. Please try not to let idiots represent all men in your mind. That would be a mistake. 🙂