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Simple question right? I will concede that falling in love with someone isn't 100% a choice, its a combination of attraction, and chemical responses. But continuing to love someone i believe is a choice.

Let me explain why i believe that.

Love needs to be nurtured. To maintain the relationship, you can't just expect the "Spark" to be there. Both sides need to make effort. Both sides need to do the things that maintain connection.

For example, Every morning when i wake up, i wake a half our prior to actually needing to get up so i can get extra cuddle time with my wife. When i come home from lunch i hug her, and tell her how much i miss her. When i come home at the end of the day i do the same, and then we cook together.. the important term here is Together. Hell even my furniture choices have centered around making sure that even when we are just watching a show together it means cuddle time. Additionally i took my grandfathers advice seriously, which was "Never stop dating your wife" So i make sure to do things like date nights, and spontaneous gifts, And by gifts, i mean things she's been wanting, to things as simple as chocolate. I tell her she's beautiful every day, and i tell her how much i love her every day. And this isn't one way, My wife does similar stuff for me.

Bottom line, if i chose to stop doing all of that, my wife would first think that there was something wrong, Then she would think that i was angry with her, and finally she would think that i dont love her. It would essentially kill the marriage.

Love, Marriage, And everything in between takes effort, Marriage is hard work, Its remembering to do the little things. Its making sure above all else that you have open lines of communication.

A lot of people fail to comprehend that, and i believe this is the reason for the horrific divorce rate.

See the following poem. it explains it quite well
https://hellopoetry.com/poem/1959983/love-needs-nurture/

I can’t get dates and I can’t get matches. I tried a new dating site and to my horror. Nil matches and activity. I went my whole life without a girlfriend
The older I become the more it seems less likely to happen. I work so hard that after work I feel exhausted and there’s no where to meet girls. I’ve given up alcohol too so that takes away a lot of socialising. Girls don’t even show any interest in me anyway. I feel like I would get more success if I were a gay man and not straight 🤦
Even if I were to meet a girl I don’t know how to date and move things forward. I question if dating has always been this impossible or if it is to do with modern abundance and quest for perfection, social media’s standards of a ripped body. Who knows…. but it seems way harder than getting my degree.

Girls, when a guy first approaches you and asks you out, what do you prefer?

Should he just ask if you want to go out with him? Or, should he suggest a specific date (Dinner, Movie, Something else)?

Please vote in the poll.

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Guys, For a First Date, do you ask her if she wants to go out with you or ask her about a specific date?