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This last week I took off 3 days of work & we went to visit his best friend and his wife. I had made plans for a happy hour with a friend last night & Wed afternoon he told me I needed to go to a client dinner with him so I cancelled my original plans. We are hosting the duo we just went & visited this last weekend since they are coming into town for a wedding. Last night on our way to dinner he lets me know he’s going to a guys night tonight & so I reach out to one of my girlfriends to hang out. Today he asks if there’s any way I can leave work early & I do. I let him know I can & that i’m running 2 quick errands first. I get home & he’s playing xbox and asks me to blow him. I the comment & start doing chores. After I have been home for 45 minutes he comes to me and starts undoing his pants &gesturing to give him a bj, I just stare. He mouths how I never want to “take care of him” and walks off. I tell him the reason I am not is because he is going to be gone all night with the boys &when I come home he’s playing games with the boys for 45 min so I don’t feel obligated to serve him when he’s not considering the time with me. He states he isn’t going to fight with me and I told him I’m not fighting just telling you why I’m not giving you a bj. He goes to lay in bed &I go lay beside him while he scrolls social for about 20 min before turning away from me &acting like he is going to sleep. I get up to feed the dogs and go to sit by the pool and within 5 min he is leaving the house, not saying a word to me, then texts noticeably annoyed that he will be gone until boys night starts. This is somewhat a common occurrence when he doesn’t get his way, he’ll ignore me even if I try to talk to him he won’t respond. I just don’t see why he doesn’t get we have &are about to spend a lot of time with his people &I’d like to think he’d take advantage of our alone time, not use it to continue to spend with others and only give me attention if intimacy is involved. General thoughts?

I've met this guy 2 months ago at an extracurricular activity and immediately thought he was cute and I had the vibe that he liked me too, he even asked for my ig. Around 2 days after that, I couldn't stop thinking about him so I sent the scary first text and that's when we started texting constantly, he asked me "out" but didn't say it was a date explicitly, we had a lot of fun and saw each other 2 days after that, and so on. He initiates physical touch like back patting or holding my hand for a second etc, he gives me flowers, we talk about deep stuff sometimes until dawn, and overall I'm completely sure we like each back. However, even though he always has fun on our dates, I have to initiate them almost all the time. It's like he avoids telling me the exact day he will be free so I always have to suggest it. I'm feeling really uncertain about this whole situation and want to let him know how I feel because I'm a 100% sure he feels the same way but he's either scared of rejection, or scared of getting hurt in a future relationship. What do you think I should do?