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A guy & I had something in the past but we broke up and became friends but there was still some chemistry by the way us. Suddenly, he starts being hot and cold towards me, he'll avoid me one moment and talk to me the next, he just kept switching for no reason. He's a player, he moves from girls to girls for fun, trying to make me jealous too but the relationship doesn't work. We started talking again then he starts snubbing me again and he gets involved with another girl, I thought he's playing her too & trying to make me jealous but they look really happy together tbh. I'm really heartbroken and stuck, I can't move on from him & I have a small feeling he still likes me but his ego is getting in the way. I don't know what to do, I just can't continue feeling like my heart is slowly shattering everyday, I'm seriously hurting. I feel so weak and vulnerable & I hate myself for ever loving him. I honestly wanted to make him feel as horrible as I feel but I'm too nice for that. Its messing with my life ; sleep, school etc cause I was deeply in love with him. Even now, I still can't hate him as i love him. How do I feel nothing towards him? How do I act cold and emotionally unavailable around him? I just want to be free of my feelings, so he wouldn't have power over my emotions anymore. I want to go back to being the flirtatious, happy person I once was. What do I do? How do I detach myself from him? Please help!

There’s a guy I met online 6 years ago that lives in England. We dated long distance for a few months before he wanted to end things due to mental health. Throughout the next few years, we don’t talk much besides here and there like when he wishes me a happy birthday. We reconnected more last year and things were going great. We texted and called more often to sharing a British show to watch together. We disconnected again since he got busy with school a little but reconnected earlier this year (mid-June). We texted still, and he disclosed that he wanted a future with me by promising each other that we would see one another within the next couple of years. I was fine with it since I had nothing to lose, and he seemed to be ready for a beginning with me finally.

however, over time, his texts seemed to get a little more rude and disinterested. I didn’t talk about it since last I asked about him being sure about us, he got turned off. Last night, he disclosed that he wanted to put the relationship on “pause” since he’s starting a job that’ll require more effort but also didn’t even see the point of being with me due to not liking me anymore romantically. Also, not having the “funds” anymore for us meeting up. I was confused since the promise was made somewhat recently, and makes me believe he wanted to just not be alone rather than enjoy being alone. I’m not sure..

either way, I told him if he ends the relationship now that he won’t have a chance with me in the future since I’m not some revolving door that’s at his disposal for his convenience to which he understood. I’m not sure what to do about this ordeal or how to feel about it besides hating that he’s basically wasted at least a couple of years of my time knowing he was unsure anyway. What do you think?