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I didn't get my first serious girlfriend until I was 29, almost 30. In fact, other than online attempts with girls where they rejected me upon meeting in person or short term dating where nothing transpired from it, I never had an actual girlfriend before that. Luckily and with the grace of God, I am now engaged. It is a huge relief.

This had caused so much grief, stress, and anguish over the years being single with no chance in sight of finding love. Shockingly, I was being looked at as the problem for being so depressed about it. I feel 100% that I was justified to feel this way, considering most humans start exploring romance and sex starting in middle or high school.

I wouldn't advocate for this to be the norm, especially for those who truly desire to have a significant other and a family in their lifetime. I know by the time I turned 29, I was already experiencing erectile dysfunction, libido issues, and low testosterone. Shit, for all I know, I can be infertile at this point. I didn't experience these issues up until recently.

Imagine you meet the person of your life, the one where you say : everything is perfect, I could spend the rest of my life with him/her.

You can only choose one of two options:

1. A short-lived romance lasting only 3 months, where you get to experience everything you ever wanted, but you inevitably break up and will never see him/her again. He/she will only be present in your memories.

2. A long-lasting friendship. You never get to experience what you'd love to experience, but he/she will be a close friend for the rest of your life. You see him/her occasionally, but this also means seeing that person with a partner. He/she will be present in your everyday life, but there is a distance that you will never be able to close.

Which would you prefer and why?

I am turning 30 next week. I am newly engaged as of July. We are each other's very first serious relationship. We met on New Years Eve on December 31, 2023. Like me, she also has a birthday this month. She will turn 27.

I most certainly love her, although I wish we could have met when we were both younger or had some connection in our youth of some sorts. I am her very first kiss after all, but a part of me feels sad that we missed that youth component with each other.

She had minimal dating experience in high school, but obviously it wasn't anything significant considering I am her first kiss.

I feel like overall, I will have that lingering regret of not experiencing young love/romance when I was younger.

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