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before any of you jump the gun and claim that I'm a victim blamer I like to point out that I'm well aware that rape is a very traumatic experience. I myself am no stranger when it comes to trauma so I should know that like any other victims of trauma people who were unfortunate to endure rape often times do not want to REMEMBER such experience. so they...

- Dont want to think about it

- Avoid hearing anything that relates to it

- (most importantly) dont want to TALK about it

it might also explain why so many rape victims dont bother to report their incident. so with all that said I now have a 6th sense and that is to never believe women who I just met or dont know personally when they say they were victims of rape. to me if a woman does not hesistate to scream that "she was raped" from the top of a mountain without feeling any sort of trauma, anxiety, or shame then is obvious to me that she is lying or orchastrated the incident in her head.

she is most likely trying to avoid accountability by claiming that she was forced into it or simply trying to use this as a way to gaslight you once you start to feel the false sympathy for her that she wants you to feel.

till then this tweet explains it better than I do. I should also know cause a girl who I almost dated was a prime example of this. she claimed her ex raped her the night she lost her virginity but then her story started to sound like horseshit to me when we cut each other lose and she would shame me for being a virgin while she was not; like who the fuck would be happy to lose their virginity via rape?

The mistakes you shouldn't make either in a relationship or in marriage.

(Don't be fooled, learn the 10 cheat codes)

Thread.

1. Thinking that her guy bestie hasn't or can't fvcked her. pic.twitter.com/Ga39Ms2UkR

— 𝐌𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐨𝐫 𝐌𝐚𝐬𝐜𝐮𝐥𝐮𝐬 (@mentormqsculus) November 10, 2024

First and foremost, lying is a NET POSITIVE as it has evolved among ALL species studied for the propensity for deception. The simple, harsh truth is that liars gain advantage and people who do not lie or cannot tell they're being lied to are, inferior, from an evolutionary standpoint. Suck it up. Liars win. Marks lose.

Lies we tell to PROTECT OURSELVES:

We might lie to avoid punishment. For example, children often lie about whether they have completed their homework. If they tell the truth, their parents might insist that the homework be done immediately, which could preclude their participation in a recreational activity.

We might lie to prevent ourselves from being embarrassed about behavior we regret or because we don’t want to reveal private information that might be used against us. We may worry that public awareness of such information can cause us stress or anxiety.

We might lie to avoid conflict. For example, a spouse may choose not to tell the truth about how they feel about their spouse’s behavior for fear that an uncomfortable disagreement might arise.

We might lie to gain social acceptance from a particular group. For example, we might feign interest in a subject matter to join a group that extols that subject. Or, we could post partial truths or fabrications on social media to become popular.

We might lie to get ahead in a competition or business. For example, a businessman might falsely claim great success in the past to secure a new business interest. Such lies can also make us feel better about ourselves when others believe us.

We might lie in a relationship to maintain control. For example, we might falsely state that we have brought a lot of money into a partnership.

Lies we tell to protect others:

We might lie about an illegal activity undertaken by a friend so that the friend does not suffer from negative consequences.

We might lie about something to spare the feelings of someone else.