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In January 2025 I was chatting to a man briefly on an app. I liked him and he suggested meeting up. Things were going fine, we talked about expectations etc. prior to meeting. He also mentioned that he’d had a stillborn baby in his last relationship. It left me speechless but I offered a lot of empathy. After that admission, he retreated a few days later and said he didn’t see us going anywhere, which contradicted everything we’d chatted about and our similar values.

Fast forward to September, he reached out again and we ended up chatting for a couple of months every day. He arranged a date with me. The pace was slower this time, we didn’t jump right into talking about the serious stuff. Consistency was there, he was incredibly kind. We met for the first date and it was nice. We laughed, he told me a little more about what he’s been through (loss of brother, rehab, stillborn baby, loss of partner, rehab and then turning his life around). We made physical contact and hugged and he told me I looked lovely. He arranged a second date before the first ended and I met him again. We chatted a bit more, not too much in-depth but enough for me to know he liked me. We admitted we liked and were attracted to each other. We hugged again and before that date was over he arranged the third. We met for our third and went to the cinema. When he said goodbye I could feel more closeness in his hug and goodbye. This time he never arranged a fourth date.

I noticed more intimacy in his replies after this date and he said he hadn’t been sure whether to kiss me. I said I was happy for that to unfold naturally. But after the kiss question? I noticed a slight stall, things weren’t moving. When I asked if he still had time for dating, he deflected the question back to me and side-stepped. Basically saying we’d been busy and that distance doesn’t help along with us not being ‘excited’ to talk to each other. A bizarre reply, because it contradicted his actions completely.

Help me, science nerds. I suck at science. I've been wondering this for a long time. Inquiring minds need to know.

I don't want to keep a spoon in my coffee while I'm drinking it, but I'm interested in when I'm making it up (and using a hand frother to make up some foam for a pseudo cappuccino), if in that interim, after stirring in the sugar, should I keep the spoon in or take the spoon out? Which will keep the coffee hotter longer?

I think the layer of milk foam does help to retain the heat a bit, making a somewhat protective 'cloud pocket' I'm calling it. But would a spoon sitting in it while I'm doing this pull heat or retain heat?

Would you change your answer depending on the mug material? Ex: ceramic, bone china, glass, metal, plastic, paper cup. Obviously metal is far more conductive than paper and plastic, and ceramic and bone china are... what... in the middle of efficiency? I always use ceramic mugs at home.

I've tried various things to keep my one cup of coffee as hot as possible for as long as possible. I have a hotplate. It tends to burn the coffee, even on low temperatures. 176F seems to be the best temp to drink the coffee, but it burns. Lower temperatures will burn the coffee when the quantity is lower in the mug (about halfway empty; or halfway full, lol).

I also have a ceramic top/lid. I'm back to using that a lot now. I find it works the best. But, of course, you have to keep taking it on and off for every sip.

I don't use coffee makers, so there is no pot to pull from. It's too much volume of coffee. I"m sensitive to caffeine.

Anyway, any science-y thoughts or advice, I'm interested. Use all the jargon. Talk over my head,, lol. The more science, the better...

Couple years back i had a talk with this person about child rearing and stuffs like that as they mentioned they are planning on having a child with their partner, and the topic of kids with autism came up. Basically they told me if they had a kid and the kid were autistic they would give that kid up for adoption because it would be too much stress and they would end up resenting their child. Personally i don’t have the highest regards for well-off people with all the supports in the world who plan to abandon their autistic child even prior to having one, and still go on and have a planned pregnancy anyway knowing full well kids don’t always come out neurotypical. These are the people that need to be child free in my opinion. And yes i am aware people have free will and i don’t plan to intervene, it just saddens me to some extent. I don't know what do you think about this situation?