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Seeking advice. Gonna try to keep this short, but basically I'm asking you ladies to review my circumstances below and my current age and see if I'm screwed on dating or not. Also I'm an introvert so any pointers to help with that is welcome as well.

I've only been in 2 relationships my whole life. First was my 11th grade year. 2nd was while I was in the military. Have not dated since 2014 and still have NEVER had sex.

I left the military in 2015 at age 22. 2015-2018 was just simply me being to myself to heal. 2018-2024, a LOT of things went wrong for me. In that time frame, I was homeless (the entire time), went through bankruptcy, then worked Corrections, lost those jobs and had to heal from new trauma there. Had ZERO support.

October 2024 I get the job I currently have. November 2024 I get an apartment. I'm happy at my job. The job combined with my VA Disability check ensures all my bills are paid and a small bit left over. Got a roof over my head. Still fixing my credit and paying a few debts off, but I feel stable for the first time in my life.

Now, the only thing that feels missing is a good woman at my side. But, I've been in survival mode so long that I'm not sure where to begin.

we met at a conference and she is the cofounder of this new, but getting pretty significant media outlet. we had a couple conversations, but basically her outlet and my client are going to collaborate on some stuff.

I had someone drop out of an unrefundable Harry Potter Studios tour and dinner. I really did not think she would accept, but she seemed quite interested in it and now we have plans for tomorrow. But I mean clearly this is like a date activity I’m asking her out on. So I guess that means she might have some interest in me? She was not the first person I asked just based on the fact that it’ll be complicated a bit since we’re also going to collaborate on some stuff professionally.

Wouldn’t women think this isn’t something a guy asks you to do if he’s not interested in you?

also, I’m American and she’s British and I’m leaving in a few days….

I was flicking through TV channels. One was a fertility clinic reality. The reason I paused on it was the girl was having her eggs harvested and fertilized by a sperm donor.

My first thought was would I accept this, if I subsequently dated her? Would other guys?

OK harvesting and preserving her eggs, if she is getting to an age where she might not produce viable eggs any more, is one thing but getting them fertilized seems a bit insulting to a future partner.

If I dated a girl and she told me the deal is I accept not having paternity, but do all the other father stuff I would feel insulted. How about you?

With a single mom at least you know the deal straight up before you went on a date.

Girls if you dated a guy and he told you he had bought some eggs and fertilized them with his sperm because the donor was superbly beautiful and he wanted the best genes possible for his children. Your role is to be the loving surrogate. What would you think?