Search Results: is he just being nice

She's a cashier who works at the local coffee shop. It's safe to say she's 55-65 years old. I'm only in my late 30's and young enough to be her daughter.

So for days she's been addressing me as ma'am. I let it slide but it was bothering me. It's as if she felt I was her age or older by addressing me as that.

So I politely said to her "I'd appreciate if you didn't call me ma'am I'm only 39. It's an outdated word." It was in a nice calm voice, not rude or nasty. I also expressed to her that I hope I'm not offending her.

So then she looks up at me and I guess realized she made an assumption and how being called that is offensive (like so many bastards do in society, assuming ) and she says sorry and she'll call me "doll" it was playful, her response.

The thing is I don't want special treatment or my ass being kissed whenever I get coffee from there. I simply don't wanna be addressed as ma'am. Up north ma'am is only used on women that are seniors or almost a senior. It's not used the same way people use it in the south.

But man I'm just glad I spoke up.