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So i have learned a lot about something called Attachment theory and i may write a mytake on it sometime. so what the Anxious attachment style is specifically is im the type where when i feel like the other person might be pulling away from me i tend to pursue them even harder because of my anxiety over them possible leaving me. and unfortunately this in turn tends to push them away even more because anxiety tends to kill the other persons attraction in my experience. I'm not acting like my authentic self and instead reacting to my own anxiety. the other person can usually pick up on those vibes easily.

Anyone else the anxious attachment types? or can at least relate to these issues

Here are the Symptoms of anxious attachment style as an adult
"- Adults with an anxious/preoccupied attachment style might think highly of others but often suffer from low self-esteem.

- These individuals are sensitive and attuned to their partners’ needs, but are often insecure and anxious about their own worth in a relationship.

- If the loved one rejects them or fails to respond to their needs, they might blame themselves or label themselves as not being worthy of love.

- Generally, adults with anxious attachment need constant reassurance that they are loved, worthy, and good enough.

- The strong fear of abandonment might often cause anxious adults to be intensely jealous or suspicious of their partners.

- This fear might also lead them to become desperate, clingy, and preoccupied with their relationships. Adults with an anxious attachment style are often afraid of or even incapable of being alone.

- They seek intimacy and closeness and are highly emotional and dependent on others. The presence of the loved one appears to be a remedy for their strong emotional needs."

Here's a good picture that demonstrates it well

So im trying to find ways of overcoming my anxiety now that i learned this about myself and become more secure.

This is what I want for the future:

I want my partner to be dependent on me

I want to be the man that takes care of the whole family.
I want to have a wife that just loves and cares for me and supports me with odd jobs and helping me from time to time.

I like the idea of working hard to give my woman and kids the best life and being loyal to them. That’s how I show love.

The issue is most people want change... but won't take the disciplined steps to make the change. Having an accountability partner/coach is a way to address that.

I won't mention the price, the price is based upon the support provided and duration. Lets assume it's a nominal fee for most groups.

The group would meet under guidance of coach, possibly one on one at times, for support, direction, encouragement. Work is required by you, minimal time.

Conceptually this is no different than a gym personal trainer, a dating coach, bike riding club, etc.. but it's online.

Some example categories for groups:

* Improving men's dating skills (Dating coach)

* Getting exercising

* Improving your aching back

* Improving your relationship

* Journaling

* Song writing and publishing

* Book publishing.

* Trauma recovery

* Making $ online

... other...

*** Note some of these types of groups have liability risk, possible licensing requirements in different areas, making them more complex to operate and costly.