What are your dating and relationship boundaries?

[Still-alive]

Everyone has boundaries. basically 'don't cross this line and we are good.' and if they do cross it then you warn them once and if they do it again its a deal breaker. at least thats how i treat mine.

Mine are simple:

When you have an issue communicate it verbally with me and allow me an opportunity to refrain or improve whatever it was.

always be respectful of each other especially when differences arise

If you can't make a date offer another time and place to make it

I don't have an issue with talking to other members of the opposite sex but talking to an ex is where i usually draw the line.

I got a few others but these spring to my mind most.

Anyways what are yours?

Here are the typical types of boundaries to help you out:

1) Physical Boundaries

2) Sexual Boundaries

3) Emotional or Mental Boundaries

4) Spiritual or Religious Boundaries

5) Financial and Material Boundaries

6) Time Boundaries

7) Non-Negotiable Boundaries

[Rosexøxø]

Boundaries are so binding, though 😕

lmao

I used to have a lottt of boundaries. I don’t bind people. I just wait to see if they’re gonna do something stupid, and then I blow their ship out of the water 🚢. Online not really any boundaries other than privacy standards.

I just have a boundary for disrespect, but even that is weighed because someone can do something disrespectful, and I won’t feel disrespected lol I may just laugh? And I’ll move on from it like an adult moves on from a child. They may still talk to then child but the child has no real power to affect that adult other than give grey hairs 😂.

At this point in life- it’s like my only boundary is murder- don’t murder me, but if you did… I wouldn’t be surprised and I’d just leave this place quicker than I had initially expected or planned to lol

Like we all die. Can anyone really hurt anyone? Well maybe others. For sure I have a boundary for others. If I see any bullying I may step in.

sexual boundaries 🧐 definitely nothing abusive. I don’t LIVE for that; I wasn’t BORN for that. 👐 So no to that, lol 🙅‍♀️

I have mental boundaries on people who are constant pests.

Touch boundaries for anyone I don’t find sexually attractive and anyone who just does so lol like WHAT- areeee

you.. doing…

Material boundaries galore- no one touches my stuff. No one goes in my room. No one. Hands OFF. The stuff that can be touched is the expensive gifts I will gift or the heartfelt ones- labeled and SIGNED to you lol

If no name? No touchy…

Financial boundaries- just don’t touch it, man… #stickyFingers

Time boundaries…. It’s fluid. I base that on my gut/ respect/ circumstance

All boundaries I have are rooted in the respect I have for myself.

Lack of it is just where I know people can’t bother me and where it’s really no big deal-

hey.. humans… they’re up to no good, again. Time to buy myself a coffee. Lol

[Rosexøxø]

Do boundaries help with bonding? Or is it just binding? Lmao jk jk

Ofc even in the animal kingdom they set boundaries. They DO help. I’m for it

[Still-alive]

Well unhealthy boundaries can make things feel like you gotta walk on eggshells around your partner and thats not.. healthy lol.

But there are still some that are good to have.

[menina]

I don't even know how am I going to answer this question Lol

I've never been in a relationship but I've thought about dealbreakers before.

1) Physical Boundaries - Don't tell me what I shouldn't wear.

2) Sexual Boundaries - Don't force me into doing things that make me feel uncomfortable.

3) Emotional or Mental Boundaries - Don't play games. Don't be toxic and/or abusive.

4) Spiritual or Religious Boundaries - Don't try to convince into believing in your religion. Don't argue with me because of it.

5) Financial and Material Boundaries - Don't ask me for money, unless you really need to. If I borrow you, please give me back.

6) Time Boundaries - It's important to have time for myself and to be with other people. I don't like clingy guys. Don't expect me to be with you 24/7.

7) Non-Negotiable Boundaries - If he has racist family members and expects me to meet them, then I'm out. I'm also out if he's ashamed of me.

[Jdjfjcjj]

I keep most to myself so I don't try and shape someone Id be better off not being with. I expect they simply not do certain things that most would expect and if they do, I'm out.
Many make the mistake saying things like I can't stand being lied to. And then say if cheated on I wouldn't leave no matter what. The goal should be to have them believe they can communicate anything to you without fear. The decision you make based on their action can be the same but you don't want to create an environment where they feel they can't be completely open.

[coachTanthony]

Boundaries are something you inject when a behavior isn't what you want from the person you are with. I think the question is what are your non negotiables.

[Still-alive]

Disagree. Those are unhealthy boundaries.

[coachTanthony]

What are unhealthy boundaries?

[Still-alive]

Like this one time this girl i was dating had kids and wouldn’t allow me to talk to them lol. Like well if im dating you i might potentially be a major part of your life and that includes your kids.

Stuff like that.

[coachTanthony]

So a woman saying you aren't meeting or talking to my children until we are in a committed relationship is an "unhealthy boundary?" or are you saying you are in a committed relationship with this person possibly engaged and she says NO you will not talk to my children?

[Still-alive]

Im saying creating unreasonable barriers to things are unhealthy boundaries.

[Still-alive]

Some more reasonable ones are: talking things out instead of pouting and hoping the other person just gets why they are upset, communicating your needs clearly and effectively, listening but not attempting to fix when someone just wants to be heard and understood

[coachTanthony]

Just trying to see what you define as unreasonable.

[Still-alive]

Ok, another is not talking problems out. Or going out drinking with buddies all the time instead of spending more tome with the partner

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I want a girl with a loving heart

I want a girl who doesn't use alcohol or drugs

I want a girl who won't force sex on me

I want a girl who is not sarcastic

I want a girl who loves to hold hands

I want a girl who loves to take picnics in the park

[Rosexøxø]

So pure. All healthy boundaries from the looks/ sights of it.

Best to you!

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@Rosexøxø Thank You :-)

[Lyndsielee666]

I dunno man. Lying over small shit makes me rage 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

[Still-alive]

ill try not to lie about taking the last cookie next time aight? lol

[Rosexøxø]

Oh that’s a good one for sure

[Capricornunicorn92]

As long as their not a psycho killer and stalker like Joe Goldberg, I think there aren't too many dating and relationship boundaries I have or at least that I can think of.

[Still-alive]

You can read all the healthy ones in my description

[msc545]

No yelling, name-calling, lying, or cheating. Must love animals and especially cats. Please do not ask about my work or interrupt it except for emergencies. Be on time. No drugs or excessive alcohol. Ask for what you want and need. Do not ask me for money, ever. Never threaten me. Enjoy our time together!

[serious]

Well for me even in general. There are more boundaries and deal breakers for people as compared to acceptance.

For many things I have very little to no tolerance and it is indeed very tough for people to stay in my life.

[LiamJHayden]

1. No sex on at least the first five dates.
2. I require integrity
3. Once official I require fidelity.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

It hardly matters. I'm never going to have a significant other. That ship was sunk a long time ago. I can't wait to die.

[Rosexøxø]

Oh this was for significant others? 🙆‍♀️ Whoops 🤐

[NostalgiaSenpi]

@Rosexøxø relationship and dating.

[Capricornunicorn92]

You're only 32 though

[NostalgiaSenpi]

People always say that, as if that really helps. I almost died several times last year due to seizures resulting from my cancer and subsequent surgery. Granted, my initial response on this question wasn't in the best frame of mind, but why do people point to my age?

[Capricornunicorn92]

I'm so sorry you dealt with that. That sounds awful and I have a better understanding of why you said that. I'm sorry again. But I just said that because for most people who don't have an illness, it's true. 32 is too young to be saying the ship has sailed. But for you I can understand why you said that and again I am deeply sorry.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

It's fine. I get it.