What's your opinion about dating coaches?

[Anonymous]

Personally I think they're nothing more than snake oil salesmen.

There is no real "rulebook" for dating, within reason. There's basic etiquette (text someone back within a day if you're interested, don't spill your guts to someone early on, don't hit on someone who is married, unless they say you're exclusive assume you're not exclusive yet, give people their space, no picking up girls at the gym, etc), there's legal boundaries (no means no and blowing up someone's phone or following them around can be considered harassment or stalking. don't be a creep), there's common sense (don't have poor table manners, dress clean, don't blow up someone's phone, keep communication consistent, be honest). But there isn't a specific process that works all the time, or even most of the time, to land dates/get into relationships/get laid, etc.

Everyone is different. Applying some sweeping generalization disguised as a "5 step program" to get a date is just going to fail more often than not lol. Be yourself, go with what you're comfortable with, practice social decorum, be presentable, be respectful, and be honest.

Anyone saying otherwise, and charging you for that info, is a con artist and it's really sad seeing people fall into this BS

[NathanDavis]

no idea really... I have never ever tried with one

so I really don't know what that implies but I am sure not all of them do the exact same thing

and then, coaching could be a few tips here and there, or a lot of them, that is true... personally, I have given advice and perspective to some people I know in real life, just a few things that were key and needed to change or adjust, and sure a bit of a smack on their heads too.. and when they applied it to their approach, things changed very dramatically for them, so

if me, giving some key advice and also encouragement to some guys has worked... I just think that some dating coaches, could be providing the same, for some guys out there...

also true, that sometimes you just need a little push and to hear someone to tell you "DO IT!!!" can be all you need, lmao

[SoftCliff]

"if me, giving some key advice and also encouragement to some guys has worked..."
I agree, but a good friend and/or a counselor could also provide you with some advice.. You don't have to hire a dating coach

[SoftCliff]

Plus what makes someone more qualified than someone on dating? Are they certified by some association? The whole concept seems a bit silly to me

[NathanDavis]

@SoftCliff both points are very true... someone that actually knows you therefore is more familiar with you could be much better to pinpoint on what could be the area of improvement, let's call it that, and also true that they will not charge you, lmao... the vast majority of people do not really need to be coached to go and date, most will find their own way and figure it out, and then some others take pointers from other people in their lives that has more experience

when it comes to credentials, I don't get it either... not sure what qualifies them as "experts" or how they grade their expertise, so yes... I am sure of one thing, there is a LOT of scam and con and trickery and dishonest people that are trying to make a buck while passing as dating coaches