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For some reason the Tinder and Bumble dating apps are barely working out for me. I get matches here and there (on Tinder only, but not so much on Bumble), I almost took my dad's word for it... so I did what he said regarding the pics and I put in the bio that I'm just a chill dude looking for love, looking for a gym partner, and I got around 21 matches total but all of them were either catfishes or real ones reluctant to respond... even though I always wait a day+ to start a chat... so after about four days on Tinder I deleted the account, called my dad, he advised me not to delete it and give up because here's what he said:

that he's watched a show called "love prison" and there are relationships that started after a woman is a week to even two years silent before responding to a text message

I wasn't needy, didn't get too personal, didn't even go with the boring "h-word" greetings as my dad would have suggested I went with, but I asked questions based on bio's and attempted to play emoji character games to determine a movie and etc and still hadn't gotten a response in almost a week or forever really... but that's just Tinder. It's even worse on Bumble, I get a useless catfish match or even hidden likes that I don't even match with and that's with expanding the location to worldwide... I get no likes nearby... and here's the pics my dad suggested using (plus one I decided to use which my dad also liked)

That said I recreated my accounts on dating apps and fared even worse, still got three new-ish matches (still mostly catfish ones) on Tinder but none on Bumble... my dad suggested I wait for as long as possible but for some reason I don't believe my dad when he says that girls wait a year to respond... he said one thing that's true though and that's many girls are looking for a guy like me, I just don't know it yet

but I ended up deleting them again... even as though my dad told me not to worry about the algorithm...

Me (29M) and my fiancé (29F) have been dating for 3 years and been engaged for a little over 6 months. We have wedding plans for July. About a year into our relationship she cheated on me with her ex boyfriend. She told me about it and I told her I could forgive her for it if she stopped talking to him and let him go. Our relationship was great after that and we were both very happy, we got then got engaged after dating for about 2.5 years Anyways about 5 months ago I saw a notification pop up on her phone and it was from him. Turns out that they had been talking daily for who knows how long. We got into a big fight at the time and I told her that I did not want him hanging out in the background of our relationship and she agreed. Then a couple months later I heard his voice on a Snapchat message she was listening to and that turned into another fight, insisted to me that their relationship is just platonic and she’s not trying to get with them. She said she can’t go without talking to him and didn’t see what the problem was as long as they weren’t hanging out. I was not happy about it but agreed that as long as they weren’t hanging out I was ok with it. These last two months have been increasingly hard for us and I feel that there is always tension between us. Intimacy between us has pretty much become non existent. Multiple times the subject of her ex boyfriend has been brought up and caused us to fight. I don’t know that I can marry her knowing that he is still in the picture. Anytime I try to talk with her about working on our relationship she completo shuts down and gives me very little input. I’ve tried so hard to be ok with it but the reality of the situation is that I’m not because I feel that she is still emotionally invested in him and holding out giving emotion to me in our relationship. I just can’t rationally understand why she would want to maintain 24/7 contact with him texting and snap chatting every day when we are supposed to be getting married.