Does anybody else think pretty privilege is only temporary or non impacting?

[jennifer_bloom]

I know plenty of gorgeous girls that married and got pregnant late, or got trapped in abusive relationships or failed to find jobs or got dumped for less attractive women, despite good looks. All my good looking cousins are divorced or never married. Only the hard working one and ugly one is in a stable relationship. I find in my family, divorce rates among attractive people is higher than less attractive people. One girl looked better than an 18 year version of Gisele and lost at least 3 husbands and her last lover was a gold digger who wasted her money and left her anyway.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely. Unattractive people tend to give way too much credit to attractive people. We're all human and we all have to shovel shit.

This new girl at my work told me, "People just do what you say and don't argue because you're cute".

Thanks for the compliment, but no, they listen to me because I've been kicking ass here for the last 8 years and I know what the hell I'm talking about. I didn't get any special treatment because I'm "cute". They dragged me through the mud just like everyone else

[LiamJHayden]

Yes. Not only that, but I have seen pretty work against people when others with authority do not want the competition for attention.

[MrOracle]

You are comparing two different things. Pretty privilege gets you more and better options to choose from, BUT you are still required to make a good choice. The fact that some people squander their advantage doesn't mean that it doesn't exist, it just means that the privilege alone isn't enough.

A person with a privilege will be given options and access to things a normal person can never get - whether it's money or intelligence or talent or connections or looks. But if a person fails to use their privilege wisely, they can still lose. And plenty do, because they don't want to do any work, or because they have an inflated ego, or whatever. But those who make better choices can and often do achieve things that the average person can't even dream of with the help from their privilege.

Now, it is true that beauty, in general but especially for women, is dependent on youth, so it certainly is temporary in that respect, but I don't think that's what you meant.

The nature of pretty privilege is that it opens doors and excuses some bad behavior - and that doesn't change. But if you (anyone) thought that it was supposed to guarantee a good outcome all by itself, that's wrong, and was never how it worked.

[inhua]

with great power comes great responsibility

pretty privilege is a great power that isn't being used responsibly or for the wrong reasons. and in a society full of enablers, it's no wonder why their screw themselves into a life they missed the opportunity to have

[NostalgiaSenpi]

It could last for decades, so no.

[LemiaOfThunder]

I think so