Feeling guilty for dating a guy who was already taken (I did not know). Do you call this cheating?

[Anonymous]

I am teaching ski at a ski resort and we are quite a big group of young people working here seasonally, some I know some I don’t. Met this very cute guy and there was immediately something between us, we exchanged numbers and started hanging out a lot just the two of us for like a week. There were cuddles and intimate moments but never sex as I wanted to get to know him better first. Luckily a friend who knows him saw us together and called me aside after about a week, to tell me that he is in a relationship, with a girl she knows. I feel really bad about it but there was no way I could have known before. Luckily I didn’t sleep with him. Do you consider this as cheating, do I have to fear that people will tell her he cheated on her with me?

Yes he cheated on his girlfriend with me

That is just fooling around, still his girlfriend won’t be happy

[ShiftingMonke]

I think to cover your bases, you need to let his partner know. Well, first, take screenshots of everything between you and him that you can. To prove that he never once brought Her up or implied that he was otherwise spoken for. I presume you've also called off your fling, but if not, do so immediately. THEN reach out to her and lay everything out. Share the images as proof, if she doesn't believe you. Apologize profusely, and stress the fact that you had no idea but that you respect relationships enough to tell her yourself before she hears it through the grapevine. Yes, it's terrible news, but if you were in her shoes.. you'd want to know. And you'd be angry at the woman involved, but how angry can you be with her, when she had no idea and no way of finding out? All you can do is make the best choice possible.
Further, it's wise to not hook up with coworkers for this exact reason. Should you tell Her about it, He will find out. It's gonna be awkward. Had you not dipped your pen in company ink, you'd never have dealt with this in the first place. I'm not trying to shame, but hindsight is 20/20. I hope things turn out well for you regardless.

[OfMiceandMen]

Considering he didn't tell you he was in a relationship already, he is the one who cheated, not you. No one could say you cheated with him, you were completely obvious to his other relationship.

If his girlfriend ever said anything to you, I would say talk to him, bc he never told me he was in relationship. If he had told, or I new, I would never have let things get as far as they did.

I would tell her right away that you did not have sex, bc that is the first thing she would be thinking.

If she seems mad at you, don't get heated, she is just lashing out and try to understand where she is coming from. Stay calm and explain your side.

I would apologize and say, I would never want someone that I was with to do something like that to me and I am sorry he took advantage of both us. Just so she is clear, you are victim too.

[Aerissa_Jade]

It is cheating on his part, not your part.

Do not feel bad because you had no way to know. You could of (may have too) asked him if he was single and if he said yes... what else would you do?

I've been in a situation where I dated a guy for months, even slept with him then one day this woman came up to me and said, "You know that's my husband" and then we both confronted him later. As I had no clue and yet there was another person too, not just me.

One could say he was cheating on his wife with me, and then cheating on me with yet another and the other and so forth. It was a mess but we all confronted him together and he didn't even seem to care.

I felt no guilt for it, as I would never of gone with him had I know.

[electromagnetic]

You didn’t cheat since you’re not in a relationship or being unfaithful in anyway.
Him on the other hand, he needs to do some fessing up to his girl.
Sorry you got dragged into it.

[coachTanthony]

You should be disgusted of his behavior being in a relationship. Imagine you being his girlfriend or wife and him doing that stuff with some strange woman.

[earthcitizen7]

You did not cheat. His situation with his girlfriend is his business. She may be upset, or may not be. Everyone is different, and everyone has Free Will to do and feel how they want.

God created Our Universe with Love and Free Will. Use your Free Will to Love!

[Mayo503]

Well first of all it isn’t your fault….
It is his he should have told you from the start….
So he’s the one who is cheating his missus/wife
But he could have just wanted to be friends but why hide that he’s in a relationship…?
But no you’re not the cheat ….

[Anemone978]

He just fooling around... but its his fault so who cares...

[Ms_Facesitter]

He cheated. But You shouldn't feel bad. He should. But he doesn't, which is outrageous but hey cheaters do be like that 😕

[Fireguy17]

You didn't know, so for you you were used.
Now if you continued to see him after you found out is a whole different story.

[Texaskid1]

Yes it is cheating.

Break it up ASAP. Remember , he will do to you as he is doing to her.

[RealMarek]

He was cheating, you were not. If you didn’t know the fault is entirely his.

[Drumlin2001]

He cheated, you did nothing. Just make sure you walk away from situtatuon

[FunkyMonkee]

On his part, yes! It's only cheating on your part if you already had a boyfriend at the time.

[Iron_Man]

If you didn’t know, it’s not cheating, but now that you do know do not continue on with him

[Asker]

Well on his side I guess he did cheat on her… or you think because nothing happened it is not?

[Iron_Man]

If he kissed you, that’s cheating he probably wanted sex anyway

[genericname85]

yes this is cheating. but he cheated, not you. it's not your fault.

[Jackblue]

He cheated you didn't since you were unaware that he was taken.

[KrakenAttackin]

He probably doesn't consider the other girl anything more than a fuck buddy.

[Anonymous]

It depends. Who are you trying to convince? Us? Or yourself?

[LiamJHayden]

He cheated, you didn't.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

It's cheating.

[jimmy2]

Lol yes now you are.. lets say. hum 😉

[ThomasDavid1989]

He cheated