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Is abortion painful? Can I get up, walk, and do my normal errands without my husband noticing?

Trutention

Xper 2 Age: 37

Am I engaged in an emotional affair with my guy friend and didn't realize it?

Last year, my guy friend confided he feared for his life and it turned out he had an abusive relationship to which I tried to save him and began to fight so that he will in turn fight. Back then, i did not know he was in...

Ofoceansbeaches

Xper 5 Age: 32

Society & Politics

Would you help the enemy in war?

Confederate soldier, Richard Rowland Kirkland was at the battle of Fredericksburg at Marye's heights. Confederates inflicted 5 casualties for every 1 they suffered, and at night, no sleep could be obtained, because...

Anonymous

(25-29)

Guy's Behavior

How do I control myself and not embarrasse myself around this really cool guy?

I really like this guy i met at a party recently. He's just got this really cool vibe and everyone wants to be around him. As soon as I walked into party he greeted me and asked me to sit with him and his friends which...

Anonymous

(25-29)

Dating

Have a hard time dating as an independent avoidant female?

First off, i dont want to message everyday and the guy i'm messaging now wants to message and then call. I thought the messages was enough because we were messaging throughout the day but no we still had to call. My best...

Ofoceansbeaches

Xper 5 Age: 32

Family & Friends

How do you cope when your dad is in the hospital and may not be coming home and you are to blame?

I had an argument with my dad because I truly forgot my dad is forgetful, and I snapped about him for not telling me about something important, and I left the house. He failed to tell me that my sister who has an AVO...

Anonymous

(36-45)

Guy's Behavior

If a guy stares at me from afar after I smiled at him does it indicate interest in me?

I saw my crush in college flirting with another girl and couldn’t help but stare at him smiling to myself because he looked so cute and flustered by the girls attention. He didn’t look at me and I assumed he didn’t notice...

Anonymous

(25-29)

Guy's Behavior

Why would someone observe me from across the room after finding out that I have a crush on him?

I can see that he glances at me because I always sit in the back rows. He would glance when im interacting with others and I would notice him mimicking my movements when we are in close proximity. He started doing this...

Anonymous

(25-29)

Relationships

Guy friend is used to taking care of me but does not share his issues or problems?

I'm worried about my dynamic with a guy friend. In the past, i used to keep on saving him and he even left me for a month because he said he got addicted to always sharing his issues with me. Now, it's the opposite. He...

Ofoceansbeaches

Xper 5 Age: 32

How Do I Look?

Is my profile picture looks bad?

i can notice that my skin is darkening and lot of areas in my face in my neck get darker.

diego_md

Xper 4 Age: 28

Guy's Behavior

Does he really have a lot going on or has he just lost interest?

So I started seeing this guy around 6 months ago. Things started off really good but then I felt him getting a kind of distant. I brought it up and he said he just really had a lot going on. At first I thought he was...

Anonymous

(25-29)

Education & Career

I finally told my manager about my coworker who does not pull her weight. was I wrong?

There’s a woman who I work with who is in her late 60s. We have been working beside each other for quite a few years. I am in charge of making our schedule, doing orders, and I work 6 days a week. She’s always made...

strawberrybaby3

Xper 6 Age: 36

Dating

Bi guys, have you had an easier time with guys vs girls?

As a bi guy, I've noticed something peculiar. I seem to be able to chat (on and off apps) with men MUCH more easily than with women. It seems that every time I meet a great girl, when I start texting or messaging,...

Anonymous

(18-24)

Relationships

Can men and women just be friends? People say yes, but I don’t think anyone really believes so?

Ok, so I have a male co-worker that I’m work friends with. We talk a lot. I have a female co-worker. We talk a lot. No one cares that me and my female coworker talk a lot, but people notice that me and my male coworker...

Anonymous

(30-35)

Other

When dealing with love deceptions, don't both genders react differently?

I've noticed this: If we've been dealing with bad luck and get cheated on or deceived by 3 different men, at some point we can give up on dates, relationships and not want anything to do with a man. Nothing. She's...

Anonymous

(30-35)

Education & Career

How can I stop others from thinking I'm dating a coworker?

I've been close to this one coworker for two years. Where I work.. I do a lot of lifting and need help sometime. When I ask other coworkers including managers, It's always an attitude, yelling or being plain rude but with...

Anonymous

(18-24)

Other

Culturally Speaking, When did the 90s end?

When Did The 90s End Culturally? I’m really interested in people’s individual perceptions of how they would define a decade, to see if there’s a commonality amongst the different opinions or if they vary. Obviously, the...

Oliverlogan263

Master Age: 25

When Did The 90s End Culturally? I’m really interested in people’s individual perceptions of how they would define a decade, to see if there’s a commonality amongst the different

When Did The 90s End Culturally?

I’m really interested in people’s individual perceptions of how they would define a decade, to see if there’s a commonality amongst the different opinions or if they vary.

Obviously, the actual dawn of a new decade doesn't magically wipe the slate clean; there's always going to be some overhang from the previous decade before the culture shift begins and settles in. 1990 may have been the literal beginning of the 90s, but the presence of the late 80s was still very much there. It takes a little while for the crossover period to play out.

Then there’s the end of the decade, which I feel was made more contentious than it usually would be because of one ‘little’ thing: Millennium. It wasn't just a new decade, it was the turn of the century; a once in a lifetime event. I remember what a massive deal the millennium was, the whole Y2K thing, the push for all things hi-tech and futuristic and digital in the media, fashion, etc. The ‘prepping’ for it was well underway through ’99, I recall, and I feel like it ended up kind of creating its own little mini-era that eclipsed the aforementioned end of decade overhang to some extent, but didn’t truly kick off the 00s either.

I've noticed that a fair few people feel that 9/11 was the key event that brought a rather abrupt end to the 90s, because of the ripple effect it had around the whole world, and destroyed a general societal attitude that had grown through the ’90s, among other things. I was too young at the time to be aware of the larger effects of it, but I can absolutely see where that point of view is coming from.

Personally, I’ve always felt that 2002 was the year when the 00s era really began to take shape, and by ’03 the transition was more or less complete. ’01 still very much had that end of ’90s/millennium vibe in pretty much all respects (the millennium ‘mini-era’), but during ’02 I felt a palpable shift forward.

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Relationships

What do you think of the financial trap of being single?

Now that my 20s are over, I just can’t help but notice how all of my friends have partnered up and grew in financial stability and prosperity. It’s made me worried and admittedly bitter. I feel like the majority of people...

Anonymous

(30-35)

Family & Friends

Do you tend to value men or women's opinions more? Why?

I dislike that my boyfriend appears to ONLY value men’s opinions. Anything I or any other woman says to him goes in one ear and out the other. But let a guy say the same thing and he's all ears and ready to take the...

DizzyDesii

Editor Age: 31

I dislike that my boyfriend appears to ONLY value men’s opinions. Anything I or any other woman says to him goes in one ear and out the other. But let a guy say the same thing and he's

Anyways, it made me question whose opinions I tend to value? I am very stubborn and not many people can get through to me. I can only think of one girl who has just really gotten through to me but I guess I notice that it’s mostly been guys, thus I value men’s opinions more.

I don't know if my guy simply values the male view more because he’s so insecure and intimidated by other men, which he says all the time. But I value the guys perspective because I want to know how to captivate, communicate with, and better understand the gender that I’m attracted to.

Some may call that a “pick me” but I don’t consider it the same thing. I feel pick me’s seek validation while I more so want advice and guidance. Who better to understand a guy I’m into than a guy himself?

If I wanted advice on how to improve my appearance, dress style or to better control my emotions, then I’d seek a woman’s advice since we better understand one another’s insecurities and reactions. I rarely ask other women for advice on guys though because so many take it as competition to go after that same guy. Its so weird. Girlcode always seems to go out the window.

Another thing could be that I grew up looking up to my grandpa more than anyone else. I also got along best with my male cousin and my uncle. My friends have always been 90% guys. Like, my mom held it down for a bit but her inconsistent behavior and broken promises really got to me. So I stopped looking up to her. Maybe she, my grandma and a bunch of flaky female friends and cousins ruined it for other women too.

Some men have wronged me but never as many men as women. I guess same can be said for my boyfriend since he feels more women have wronged him yet all I ever see these days is men treating him badly. #FeelFreeToList

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Girl's Behavior

Is she interested or just nice?

About 2 months ago I noticed a woman at one of the stores I frequent was staring at me a lot and I slowly started talking to her. I worked up the nerve one day and I complimented her hair and she got really happy started...

Guitarguy913

Xper 4 Age: 31