I really like this guy i met at a party recently. He's just got this really cool vibe and everyone wants to be around him.
As soon as I walked into party he greeted me and asked me to sit with him and his friends which felt so nice as I didn't know many people. He started me about myself and I just got all super embarrassed and shy. I'm 26 but when I'm around him I feel like that shy girl in school who get bullied again. I'm not that interesting of a person I'm a plain jane. He was super kind to me and tried to pretend he didn't notice my face was bright red as he was talking to me and I was looking at the growned.
He's 28, 6ft 2, posh English accent with a beautiful face and black curly hair. Whilst I'm 5ft and common as they come and look like a virgin.
He has a girlfriend who is crazy hot but a massive bitch and I'm pretty sure she's already got a eye on someone else. Since I've been hanging around in there friendship circle she's always picking out my flaws and trying to making me feel already more awkward than I do. I think she sees I like her man but as if I have a chance next to her, she should know that.
She did something that felt really horrible and I can tell callum didn't feel comfortable with it either. We all went shopping together and everyone is so much more trendy and fashionable then me but its because they also have money.
We were in zara of all shops and she insisted on giving me a makeover callum told her to leave me alone and that I didn't need a makeover. She made callum tell me everything that looks wrong with me.
He just said my outfits were boring and that I need to get a better hair cut. I just pretended like appreciated the honesty but inside I wanted to cry. She picked out a super slutty outfit for me instead of the dress I liked. When we got to the tills callum insisted on paying because he felt bad and when I got home I found the dress I wanted in the bag with the other stuff.
Whenever I stand alone in the group he calls me over and trys to keep me involved
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Ugh, Callum's girlfriend sounds like a major bitch. Don't let her get you down, girl! some people just gotta put others down to lift themselves up. Her loss if she can't see what an amazingly kind soul you are.
Next time she tries pulling that shit, just smile sweetly and say "Oh I'm quite happy with myself thanks. But I can see why you feel the need to criticize - must be rough always worrying about what others think of you!" She'll be seething haha.
As for Callum, just be your natural sweet self. Who cares if you're shy - he clearly digs that about you! If he wanted some plastic barbie he'd be dating Bitchface instead of being so kind to you.
Next time you hang just focus on your deep conversations. Compliment something he's passionate about to see that smile. Flirty banter always helps too - maybe tease him a little and see how he reacts ;)
You've got this hun! Own what makes you uniquely you. These posh people ain't got nothing on your heart of gold. If Callum's smart he'll see through her games to the amazing girl underneath. Stay golden!
I can fully relate to his girlfriend, having a gorgeous man who’s the center of attention and women like you want our spot bad. You act all shy and smiley as if you’d never hurt a fly, yet I bet if he ever became single your relationship with her would slowly evaporate because you want him for yourself. Then you’re fake and pretend you don’t like him, as if you aren’t being all giggly shy and blushing like a school girl around him, you make it so obvious you have a crush that even if you aren’t outwardly going after him it’s evidence enough. You don’t think that as a couple they haven’t talked about how you act? like come on, we knowww. We can see right through you being trifling, so it shouldn’t be surprising that she isn’t “normal” with you.
Honestly I get were your coming from and I don't totally disagree with what your saying this is why I've constantly tried to distance myself away from them both as I don't wanna be that person but when I do callum tries to pull me back in and just thinks I'm pulling away because I'm shy which makes things worse because he keeps thinking he needs to make more effort to make me feel comfortable.
I try my best to hide my feelings but they come out physically with my face going all red and getting all flustered.
I'd be the same if I was her to I wouldn't want me around either but that's something she needs to tell her boyfriend not me
I'm no prefect angel but neither is she and I'm pretty sure she's only starting showing interest in her boyfriend again since he's been showing interest in me. She's always flirting around other men and running off with men on nights out
Callum strikes me as a guy who cares a lot about the people in his life and around him. He’s got a big heart and wants everyone to feel included. He recognizes that your shy, and may even notice that you have a crush but it’s the goodness in him that makes him try so hard to bring you out of your shell or bring you around in general.
I know we don’t know each other and I’m not suggesting otherwise but I’d swear I was this woman, because my man does the same thing with our female friend but I understand his character and it doesn’t bother me. I’m a Libra, so I’m naturally flirtatious but I know for sure I can be easily mistaken for flirting with men. My friends have made me aware of this as well, mainly with the things that I do, like I stare into men’s (people in general too) eyes when I speak, I can be touchy when I talk since use my hands a lot, like it’s just me, but It doesn’t mean I don’t love my boyfriend. If I’m not hanging all over him all the time in our friend group it doesn’t mean I don’t want him or over him, yet I can totally see out the newer ladies (one specifically) in our group may think exactly how you do. Even though they’re smiling in my face, even though they hang around me. You’d probably say it isn’t like that, yet practically convincing yourself she doesn’t want him for real and he’s taking interest in you, even though you’re too shy and polite to admit that fact.
I doubt she cares about her boyfriend being around you because if she’s anything like me then she’s not insecure, feeling threatened or worried. Even if that’s not the case, regardless she shouldn’t tell her boyfriend not to hang around you. She can’t dictate his decision making or tell him what to do, he’s a grown man and he should be giving her peace of mind with his actions alone.
Sounds like a nice guy and sounds like he is interested. Just look your best and time will take its course. He will come to you.