About 2 months ago I noticed a woman at one of the stores I frequent was staring at me a lot and I slowly started talking to her.
I worked up the nerve one day and I complimented her hair and she got really happy started complimenting me a lot and talking to me since and there was what I thought was light flirting and everyone was telling me to go for it and ask her out and she’s interested. The whole time it was more than obvious I was interested and nervous but I was trying to be careful because she works there and I shop there and I didn’t want her to be uncomfortable.
On Thursday last week I told her I was gonna come in the next day and she said “Oh no I’m off till Monday.” So I went in today and we talked about personal stuff for about 45 minutes even though she was really busy. Towards the end of the conversation I blurted out without thinking that I was on vacation this week and asked if she’s free at all. Her cheeks turned bright pink and was still smiling and looking me in the eyes and said “thank you for the offer but I can’t I’m working all week but you can come in because I will be here all week” and I said okay and left feeling embarrassed as all hell and confused. I don’t want to be that guy who just ghosts but I don’t want her to feel weird if I go in.
Im mostly confused about weather she was letting me down easy or if she is interested. I’d like to add that I’m really rusty at this it’s been a long time since I actually tried to get to know someone. I know there’s other fish in the sea but before I move on I want to try to figure out if she’s interested at all. I’d be thankful for help
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Hmm damn dude, that is a confusing situation. But I don't think you should write this girl off just yet. A few things that make me think she may actually be feeling you:
- She gets all smiley and blushes when you talk, that's a good sign
- She's been making excuses to chat every time you go in, even when busy, so she wants those convos
- Getting personal with you for 45 mins straight shows interest
The fact that she said you can still come by even if she's working could be her subtle way of saying she's down to see you, just can't officially hang after hours.
I'd say swing by the store again next time you're in the area. Keep the conversation light and casual at first so she doesn't feel pressured. But also keep the flirty banter and eye contact going to gauge her vibe.
If she's still receptive, maybe work up to exchanging numbers "to chat about something store related later." That could lead to asking her out properly. You never know man, she may dig you too! Just play it smooth, yeah?
this is a difficult one tbh but i wouldn’t necessarily assume she’s uninterested? it’s difficult not being able to actually see the interaction but i wouldn’t necessarily pull away but maybe just see over the next week or so?
i think with how you’ve described her attitude i ( as a women) would assume she may be interested, even just slightly!
Sounds like an excuse to let you down.
Thank you, I mean I figured as much it was just the way she worded that she can’t this week because she’ll be working but I can still come in because she’ll be there is what threw me off