I’ve known this girl for a while because we work together. We’re not super close but we’ve had a few casual conversations. It’s kinda hard to converse with her because work can get busy. She’s kind of hard to read because she’s kinda quiet. We also go to the same Uni and I’ve been seeing her around campus more often. We’ve said hi as we pass each other but then we go our separate ways. I messaged her through Facebook to ask for her help with my project. i was kinda surprised she had answered so quickly because she replied back at 1am and I didn’t expect her to reply until the next morning. I was planning to ask in person but I didn’t get the chance. I thought this would be a good excuse to meet up and to try and progress things but I have a feeling she might just be helping me to be nice. But I can be for certain. I posted a couple screen shot of our conversation to see what you think.
Is she interested or just being nice?
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Anonymous
(18-24)
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i’m not saying that she for sure is not into you, but nothing here tells me that she is. if you were asking for help on an assignment late at night she could have thought it was time sensitive and that she needed to reply soon, or maybe she is just a fast responder? i also don’t think the texts seem flirty or overly interested. especially her confirming that it is only going to take 30 minutes makes me think that she doesn’t want it to take longer
It is not clear. Anyone saying it is clear has no. idea what they are talking about. She could be busy so that is why she asks you about time. You need much more. info to draw a conclusion.
from this information and conversation it doesn't seem she is interested. And... she is asking if it will take 30 minutes. Thats something I would not ask a guy I am interested to tbh.
Based on solely that conversation she’s just being friendly. The “you said it shouldn’t take longer than 30 min?” is what really make me think that. If she was interested, she would wanna spend more than a half hour with you.
That is UNLESS she has another obligation that day (class, work, etc) in which case it could all mean the opposite— if she’s busy that day but is still making time for you that COULD mean she’s interested.
Sorry Bro... she is one super nice chick to help you out like this but she is NOT interested. NO girl who is interested in a guy would confirm that it won't take longer than 30 minutes.
Urgh, dude. She has literally no reason to be interested in you because you were too pussy to flirt and show your true intentions. She's meeting up with you on the grounds of helping you with your project because that's how you framed it. She's gonna be pissed off when she learns your ulterior motive.
She is helping you to be nice. In this situation, finish this meeting and do not contact her for 3-5 days. I'd say five days is the optimal number. Then ask her out directly. Remember, just one message: "Do you want to grab some coffee next week?" Do not tell her you like her, it's obvious because you asked her out. Do not pick a specific day, now you will see from her response if she is interested and how much.
Oh no she's not interested in you. If I liked someone, I would want it to take longer than 30 minutes. She doesn't want to spend any more time than necessary. Seems like casual friendly behaviour to me.
You will need more interaction to tell is she is being friendly or is interested. if she flirts with you, that would be a good indicator. But mostly, it just takes more time to tell.
It looks like a regular conversation you'd have with any coworker, nothing special. This is why some women are afraid to be nice to guys, they tend to misread things.
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Anonymous
(30-35)
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This sounds like you're trying to set up a date more than getting "help with a project". If you're into her you need to make it clear from the get go and set up a definite date.
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Yeah I will make my intentions more clear once we meet. I asked for her help as an excuse to meet up in the first place. Tbh I just wanted to see what other people’s impressions were
Ahh got ya, yeah do what you gotta do and make it fun etc, get her laughing and conversation going, then pop in a "we should get a drink sometime" etc, let us know how it goes, good luck!
She's just being nice. Look for much more apparent things, like deep eye contact for SEVERAL seconds, touching, and opening up to you about personal, intimate things.
Honestly, you shouldn’t really be expecting/assuming anything too soon. It’s too early (in my opinion). I feel that you should just play it safe for now, hope that helps! :)
Mark my words. She's interested. Just don't be a wussie and keep asking her permission for everything. She may not realise it fully yet. It's your evaluation phase. Act like a man who has nothing to lose, fully content and she's all yours
I thought you were joking with your answer... for your information nice decent people don't ghost a coworker out of the blue, but she might do it if she finds he has an ulterior motive. 👌
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