Why do exes get mad when the guy takes his new girl he’s interested in to nicer, more expensive places?

[Anonymous]

His ex said this to me after me and him started dating and she then said she’s shocked he took me to such nice restaurants (she thinks he did all of this just to “hook up with” me).
“…he may have really liked you when he met you.. honestly I am shocked he took you to several nice places so early on (not his M-O)…so I think he just got out of control.”

[kylee2437]

Honestly stop listening to this ex. You don’t know his agenda and people can grow and understand what they need to change to make their next relationship more sustainable than the last

[Asker]

She seemed unstable so I blocked her. She shamed my age saying I’m too young and naive, then this comment about the nice dinners. Like, clearly he wasn’t super into her but that doesn’t make him a bad person.

[kylee2437]

You are 25-29 , I don’t know your exact age but another woman shouldn’t be insinuating that another woman is too naive when you are at an age where you are capable of making logic decisions. I’d ignore her and just keep tight boundaries.

[Asker]

Ikr! I’m 26 :-) I am really mature and I think it’s honestly quite sexist for some women to assume because a woman is younger she has no agency or good judgment.

[kylee2437]

How old is this woman?

[Asker]

She’s 35

[kylee2437]

Yeah she needs to relax lol

[Asker]

She seems honestly nuts. I hate when people use that to describe women, especially. But she reeks of a heart attack.

[kylee2437]

How long ago did they break up?

[Asker]

Okay this sounds horrible but the day after me and him met.

[Asker]

We met at a conference and hit it off and the next day he broke up with her.

[kylee2437]

Yeah I’m going to say she’s butt hurt over that situation lol

[Asker]

He didn’t wanna cheat on her so he broke up with her so he can date others. She’s acting like he committed some horrible cheating act. Sometimes it’s harsh but sometimes our person just finds someone else. It happens.

[kylee2437]

@asker I’ll agree and disagree. She’s allowed to be upset as they just broke up and he was out hunting for someone else which in my opinion isn’t being loyal, but at the same time she needs to know her worth. I would be in fear of that guy actively looking for another person while with me now.

[Asker]

That’s a really good point. I do think we just met by chance and he wasn’t actively pursuing dating. I agree she has the right to be upset.

[kylee2437]

@asker maybe you are right, but when you love someone the thought of opening that side up to another person isn’t even a thought. I think she’s being immature about things, but I understand what she is going through

[OlderAndWiser]

Why are you even keeping tabs on what your ex is doing? Those are childish games to be playing.

[Asker]

Wait me? Or her?

[Asker]

I’m not keeping tabs on her. She reached out to me.

[OlderAndWiser]

Sorry I misread the post. Childish game for her to be playing.

[Asker]

No worries lol. Yeah it’s borderline stalkerish. Like move on lady.