As a bi guy, I've noticed something peculiar.
I seem to be able to chat (on and off apps) with men MUCH more easily than with women. It seems that every time I meet a great girl, when I start texting or messaging, they put in a *minimal* level of effort, and it always seems like I have to plan out intricate dates to even get a sliver of attention. In addition, I get hit with the "I dont want commitment" line much more than I do with the guys I've connected with more often early on.
When I've gone out with guys, I can text whenever, chat about whatever, and usually get the same level of energy back. If I want something "casual", I find that being straightforward and cutting to the chase with guys means that they are very easy to read regarding whether or not they want the same.
Though when it comes to being in relationships, the women who stick it out after months (i'm talking like minimum 4 months) often tend to put in more effort than the men down the line.
TLDR; guys are way easier to get involved with vs women at first. When it gets to the actual relationship stage, women are usually more invested. Has anybody else had similar experiences?
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Bi guys, have you had an easier time with guys vs girls?
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So I went through a phase in my mid 20s of figuring out my orientation and had the very same experience as yourself that it is and was so much easier to interact with boys/men than girls/woman. Just like you I felt the connection was smoother and easier and received same level of interest and energy from boys/men. It took me a lot of effort, time and commitment to try to get a girl/woman on a date or even more.
With regards to your question and based on my experience, guys in their mid 20s aren't into commitment, exclusivity or showing off our flings to our friends/family. We are in it for the fun, to experiment, to investigate our orientation, to understand our wants, needs and fantasies. We often think with our horny lollipops than mind and hearts. As guys we are in it for the pleasure rather than emotions. Rarely among all those that you meet will last more than the sexual phase and wants more. Ladies are different, for them after the sexual lust, its about emotions, feelings and usually exclusivity. They want to show us up to their friends/family and are passionate to do other things other than just the sex. They will commit into the relationship and go through the ups and downs with you! For some it's not to be faced by the society for sleeping around and hence being in a committed relationship, for others its all about having someone in your life so you can enjoy the days.
Once you reach close to 30s or even move into that age gap, that's when you find more guys wanting to be in a committed relationship. Don't want to leave as today is the last day and feel its nice to wake up next to someone. There are still a whole lot of men-relationships who still enjoys encounters between the sheets but they also have emotions for one and another and can and at times want to share their significant others with family and friends.
Well, you’re probably more into men anyway, so I’m sure you’ll fine.
Although you probably want to use a woman to pop out a few babies, so that kinda makes things more complex… Good luck.
I've heard that men don't get much feedback on dating apps. You gotta be white hot and a doctor to get much feedback now a days 😂😂