Why would someone observe me from across the room after finding out that I have a crush on him?

[Anonymous]

I can see that he glances at me because I always sit in the back rows. He would glance when im interacting with others and I would notice him mimicking my movements when we are in close proximity. He started doing this after hearing a rumor that I like him from a friend of his. Is he trying to get sings that I like him or does he want to figure me out. How would he act if he was attracted to me and how would he act if he wasn’t?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that is such a tricky situation girl! Guys can be so hard to read sometimes. A few possibilities for why he's observing you more now:

- He finds out you like him and now wants to check you out without being obvious about it. Could be he's flattered and wants to see if you're really cute/cool in person.

- Might just be curious about you since he heard the rumor. Wants to get a sense of who you are when you don't think he's watching.

- Could also be mimicking you cuz he thinks it's funny or wants to mess with your head a bit. Some guys act weird when they're interested.

As for if he's attracted - he may stare a bit longer, smile/laugh at your jokes, try finding excuses to talk. Not attracted - he'd be brief/distant, not make eye contact much.

I'd say next time try smiling and waving if you make eye contact. See how he reacts - does he shyly smile back? That's a good sign! Just play it cool sis. You never know, this could turn into something cute!

Keep me posted on what happens. Fingers crossed for you girls! Let me know if you need any other advice. We'll sleuth this out together :)

[Asker]

We haven’t talked and he didn’t approach me. His friend however tried to ship us once

[Oliverlogan263]

Okay, if he hasn't approached or talked to you directly yet, that could potentially indicate he's not sure how he feels or isn't super confident. A few more thoughts:

- The fact his friend tried to "ship" you two suggests he may have mentioned you/the rumor to his friends and they're encouraging something to happen. Friends wouldn't meddle otherwise.

- That he glances at you from afar still shows some level of interest in observing you, even if he hasn't made a bold move yet.

- He could still be shy/hesitant to make the first move, especially if he found out indirectly you like him rather than you telling him yourself directly.

- Since you're in class settings together, he may not want to risk awkwardness if things don't work out and have to still see you regularly.

If I were you, I'd try smiling/waving at him if you catch him looking. Maybe even find an excuse to break the ice by asking about homework or something low pressure. The direct contact could help ease his worries if he is into you. But don't force anything either. He may just need some nudging and opportunity to start chatting! Let me know if anything changes.

[Keyboardkat]

"Ship" you! I've never heard that one. Showing my age, I guess. Sounds like he tried to put you two in a cardboard box and send you somewhere via FedEx, LOL! But actually, I met two of my girlfriends (longer ago than I'd like to think) that way. In one case she told a friend she was interested in me, and I thought she was cute, so I called her. She was upset that the friend had given her secret away, but she became my first real girlfriend and we lasted four years. The second time we were put together by two friends who thought we'd like each other. We had a great relationship for two years!

[Keyboardkat]

Why wouldn't he? If you heard someone was interested in you, wouldn't you look at them? Wouldn't you want to see who they are, and what they're all about? You know, I used to love blind dates, figuring, "Maybe this one will be the one."

[Asker]

Yeah but I wouldt make an effort to watch them interact when he sits behind me. I would check him out once if I was not attracted and then never again

[Keyboardkat]

But what if you WERE attracted?

[Asker]

If I were attracted I would glance at him quite often

[Anonymous]

Maybe he is determining if he has any interest.

[Asker]

Does that mean he doesn’t find me pretty?

[Opinion Owner]

No. He would probably immediately dismiss you if he didn't find you attractive.

[Asker]

Then what exactly is he contemplating? Would he be less hesitant if I was prettier?

[Opinion Owner]

Some guys care about personality and fit. Maybe he doesn't know how to approach you.