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There's an old saying a leopard never changes it's spots.

So someone who is abusive likely will never change. Someone who uses drugs will likely never change. Someone who doesn't manage mental health issues properly likely never will.

And so forth.

Given this do you feel that it's smart to get a background & other - such as financial / credit (for gambling issues, etc.) - checks on someone you're dating / getting into a relationship.

Particularly as unless you know person - via friends, neighbors or work - you're likely never going to meet the previous people they dated & thus have no reference for their behavior.

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It's very easy - and happens quite often - for abusive individuals to pretend to be "nice" until they lull their victims into a sense of false security.

And by doing checks you can find out that "nice guy (or girl)" may have being beating the shit out of their previous partner BEFORE they are beating the shit out of you.

My husband noticed that since he's been at his job, people who know him talk to him much more often than people at his old job did back when he was living as a woman. It's the same type of office job as before, and his personality n how he acts hasn't changed at all. Just now people know he's a man, & they're more friendly toward him at work and social events.

And I've noticed the opposite in interactions with strangers when out running errands n shit. When I was living as a man it was rare for a stranger to initiate conversation w me out in public. Now it happens fairly often. And same thing i act the same, I talk the same, just now I look like a woman & strangers approach/talk to me more in public.

& is this true for you as well? Men, are acquaintences usually very friendly to you, but strangers don't talk to you? Women, do strangers often approach you but acquaintances can seem distant/quiet at work and such?