I am talking about men well into their 20s or older and never had a relationship. This means never had a girlfriend in middle school, high school, college, and beyond. I know it will all depend on factors, but in general, do you find it attractive or not? Are you indifferent?
I have no use for women in my life other than I want them but to many of them want or need thing and try you me. But after my first girlfriend that I just go I have no use for them she just want me take her out to eat all the time and I keep thinking how help her but I do not like her that much and I buy her a lot of thing. I keep trying to end it cause I could get someone better. It not going bad just she want thing all the time so I end it. I get she need thing and have no way get them her self I don't know what do send her a guy who have a lot money and like her I do not know anyone like that for her.
I still never had a kiss but I had sex and after that I wish I did not have sex cause it was with a bad person and I wish she was my girlfriend but she dose want that and she not a good person. I not the best person. If you have a girlfriend there a lot waiting at the store and just waiting at for her. Also I do not like when she dose something I do not like and she dose not like when I do not buy or get her things.
All the girl I was with say that I was nice to them. But I just have no use for the one I have been with other than wanting to fine them help. they are use less to me. But have one that is nice and have her own money and that I could have sex with and if she was just with me and did not have to much wrong with her it be ok.
Like I would want have a nice one. I still do not know what do with them and I wish I know what girls where thinking.
It be nice to have a good one someday when I doing better my self just pick her up take her to a fun place and take her home have her take care of her self. They maybe be with her and get married and have a kid.
I just have no use for the one now they ok there just to much help they need and I don't know if I can do it.
They'll say indifferent but the truth us the guy who never had a girlfriend is a weirdo and they're not attracted to him.
But when you ask the question, the girls imagine an attractive guy who simply never had a date.
Not a socially awkward weirdo that they would never date.
Usually that's the kind of guy who can't get a date.
I am socially awkward and introverted, yes. Also on the spectrum. I am not a terrible person, at least I don't think so. I was just never appealing to women.
Yea I grew up fucked up and extremely socially fucked. I'm probably on the spectrum, at least, I begin to suspect at this point. But it's too late I'm 40.
Anyways I remember most of my life girls being repulsed by me. They would avoid me like the plague.
If I talked to a girl she looked at me like I was disgusting or I had done something inappropriate to her.
Now I can talk to anyone and I can talk to women.
I don't know why they're so grossed out by socially awkward men.
I feel like they think a socially awkward guy doesn't get laid, and so therefore he is more likely to be a rapist.
So that just puts him on the creepy spectrum.
Like women are constantly looking out for potential creeps looking to rape them. And they categorize and stereotype men just like any person does witth people in general. We all do that shit and it's bad but it is what it is.
That's my theory. Because women love me now. But I'm not socially awkward anymore.
Spectrum, as in autism?
That happened to me before. This was with my recent now ex boyfriend actually. When we started our relationship last year, I was his actual first girlfriend. I could tell he was trying at first to be a good boyfriend and learn what it's like being in a relationship. He was a good boyfriend at first and we even talked about marriage and kids eventually. It wasn't up until about 3 1/2 nearly 4 months into the relationship, he stared to change and he even started to shut me out. He definitely became distant from me and I believe he started becoming depressed. Then here I am being the best girlfriend to him and being there for him also trying to communicate with him but he made it hard for me to even talk to him. He actually accused me of not communicating properly with him when I have tried. He ended making me feel like crap and then I ended up breaking up with him. It was very hard for me to do because I have really loved him and I've done soo much and sacrificed a lot for him because I loved him and he ended up shutting me out, made me felt crappy and became very dramatic and immature. He did apologize to me a few days later for making me feel like that and wanted to end on good terms which that ended up happening, but now here I am 7 months after the break up and we don't really speak anymore and I don't see him anymore mostly because he got fired recently so now I don't see him at work anymore. Although I may sometimes my emotional moments but now I'm ready to move on and find my right man. My ex boyfriend kinda wasn't my first boyfriend but he's definitely not my last either. So that's my experience with a guy who never had a girlfriend.
Sounds like he might have been fearful-avoidant - not his fault, and as he never had a girlfriend before, probably didn't even know it.
Really just as a normal guy who never either had the opportunity or never had the opportunity with the right person. And, although both frustrating, they're very understandable.
I do appreciate honesty, though, so if that is the case I would like to know - at a certain point.
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I didn't have a boyfriend up until I turned 31 and my boyfriend hadn't been with anyone up until now at 32. I don't think it's a bad thing at all.
I wish I can find a decently attractive woman without a romantic past. Hopefully one day.
Yes hopefully one day soon you will!
Interesting
More shocking for a woman to be alone and single this long than for a guy
I was sexually assaulted back in college which kept me from wanting to date anyone. I also was dealing with heartbreak after college.
So you had plenty of options during that time but you just chose not to pursue anything further with them?
Yes I did.
Yeah just an unexpected case for a woman
Reason why is because since women don't have to do the pursuing like men always have that's why most of society finds it more shocking for a woman to still be single by a certain age compared to a guy, still single as in never having been with anyone
Well in my case I just wasn't ready to date due to the circumstances I listed above. There were lots of guys that tried to pursue me and one even came close to pursuing me but I shut it down due to being depressed at the time. There are women out there like me. Maybe not many but they are out there.
Yeah it just seems unexpected for cases like that to happen to women since women always have guys coming after them but guys normally never have girls coming after them or hitting on them or escalating on them even if the guy is attractive
Some men choose not to have one not because they can't have but because they choose not too. I have that friend who choose to wait for the right girl he even pray for that girl to arrive in his life. I admire him for that not every man can wait for their woman. He choose to live his life make his own life fruitful while waiting for that girl. Nothing wrong with that. Right Woman/Man will come at right time and right moment.
I'd prefer previous relationship experience because otherwise I end up trying to basically teach them HOW to be in a relationship and it's painful
Which part is the most frustrating to teach? I got the communication part better than my exes did. I treated them like royalty, but somehow it was never enough.
Only took one of them to bed though. She was only a so-so teacher at that part, as I think she deliberately underperformed at times to trip me up, because she got some sick thrill out of humiliating me.
I am almost 29 and never had a real girlfriend. I especially never had anything serious. I haven't even kissed a woman in 8 years now. Yes, I seek a particular type of woman that is rare to find, but just about all women never gave me a chance and felt creeped by me.
That happens. They live in a fairy tale. You're too real for them. One day, they'll wake up and realize how stupid they were to treat you that way. And it'll be too late.
If they're in their 20s and never been in a relationship/ still a virgin, there's a reason he couldn't get a dumb teenager to date him/ have sex with him when he was a dumb teenager and I don't want to find out why or have to train him...
By mid20s they are too much bother to train, I have high standards for my boyfriends in every aspect, including in bed, and that likely wouldn't meet them.
Would it help if the guy got professional help such as sex therapy or simply a prostitute to get initiated?
@EricSummer haha, it would help, but he still wouldn't likely rise to my standards in that department... I am a member of a BDSM Dungeon, and most of the particularly skilled members are at least in their 30s, and started early. ... while it's possible for me to get into a relationship with someone in their 20s, or have sex with them without outside influence, it's likely not going to happen unless they started early.
I've never had a boyfriend so I don't care.
I want a woman like you so badly, you have no idea.
Then desperation is part of what will keep you without...
@Truthatanycost I have standards.
@asker what's ur username
@southernwhiteguy haha
Never been in a relationship as I haven’t been very interested in women I’ve met before. Honestly, not religious, but don’t expect to either as my core values (truthfulness, chastity, commitment) don’t seem to exist in this modern society/culture.
That he didn't get what he was looking for in a partner or he wanted to focus on his career sth like that 😄
I think, whilst they may say otherwise, it will be negatively. Lack of experience and not house trained etc. Girls seem to like other girls finding their boyfriend attractive - I guess that is a status thing.
Depends solely on the individual. Some guys just haven't had the luck. Some just have other things to focus on. So I'm indifferent towards them.
I've never been in a serious relationship and don't regret it. I can do what I want, whenever I want. If my needs need to be met, I find someones who's looking for a one-nighter. Being in a relationship is like winding the clock back to your youth having to answer to your parents. "Let me check with my girlfriend/wife". Yeah, no thank you.
This is largely my experience. Due to a traumatic childhood and recent a bpd diagnosis courting women and getting into relationships felt like solving Russian trigonometry in Chinese. I've had a few very short flings but nothing longer than a couple months. It's easier to be forthcoming on the internet but because of stigma and how men are viewed in this arena I tend to keep this information to myself when talking to women.
When you meet them, they're not usually guys you would go out with anyway, so there's no need to get into their dating history. On this web site they're obnoxious, in real life they're just sort of regular guys.
As a person who's never had a boyfriend or girlfriend either, I'd say I wouldn't have a problem with it. Just makes us on the same level then.
Without previous relationship experience, you are asking for trouble.
There is going to be something wrong with them for sure , lets me honest , been home with mum too long I reckon , strange.
Hard to say, I've never met one but I would be very curious to find out why if it wasn't completely obvious... just for my own sanity.
I'm 52 and had 1 girlfriend. It lasted 2 months because I moved to a different state. I've had a few girls pleading with me to stay with them when working for resorts and i didn't.
i would think he is picky or just someone who cannot be bothered if he has a girlfriend or not
I am picky, but women never gave me a chance. I was always off-putting to females.
what made you think that?
Women give off that "creeped-out" cue.
i'm sorry 😐... i actually don't also understand females i feel like they hate me but i don't do anything wronh. i'm straight by the way i'm referring to female friends
Unless the woman actually knows the guy, how would she know if he's never had any sort of relationship? If she does know him, I'd guess that most women's initial reaction would be suspicion.
Truth is that is a big warning sign for a man to have never had a girl in his wife assuming he actually wanted one.
*life
I am 29 and never was able to get a girlfriend. Does this mean I am a bad guy?
Doesn't mean you are a bad person but it does indicate to women that something must be wrong with you if you couldn't find a girlfriend especially by your at 29.
What do you mean that "something might be wrong"?
They are going to view you as a creep, have zero confidence, mentally ill and yes possibly gay.
It's not normal to be an adult and never to have had a girlfriend or be sexual.
I’m not attracted to you but I out indifferent lol
As it should be irrelevant to actual attractiveness. Though ironically not unrelated. Your shyness and lack of confidence when speaking to women is probably why.
don't care, indifferent. as long as they're not douche bags, serial killers, narcissists, stuff like that.
Depends why he never had one. for some reasons it doesn't make him less attractive for others it does
I seek a woman that has never had a romantic bond where we can be each other's first real relationship. Women never found me appealing
they'll ever view him as an immature fuckboy or a potential school shooter
ther are too many stay-at-home kids now get out there and make the mistakes we did that life
I was romantically involved with someone a few years ago, but it never went into official hookup or dating
It’s much harder these days for straight singles as more and more people are coming out as gay or lesbian.
Usually not good or bad/indifferent, unless I personally know why a guy is single. (E. g anger issues, bad hygiene, unpleasant, etc.)
İ dont believe and i think about he maybe a lier sorry
I’ve tried to date a few times but when it came down to the sexual part women used to laugh at me, so now I stick with being a sissy
Any woman investing in doesn't care man. Don't punish yourself for HER hangups.
Well it's the future that matters!
I assume it becomes a bigger Red Flag by a certain age though
I don't know why I find it so hard to find someone I like who likes me back... Some women definitely assume something is wrong with you too :/
why didn't this guy ever have a girlfriend?
Bad luck maybe. I am seriously turning 29 this year and never been in a real relationship.
Sounds suspect to me. I wouldn't deal with a guy like that sorry
I have always wanted a girlfriend. I have always wanted a wife and a family of my own. Women never gave me a chance in the first place.
better preference
Negatively
I never had a boyfriend so 🤷♀️
I can maybe see one problem, but I just don't want to say it.
I wouldn't doubt if I die single too
As a loser, which is true, sadly
Are you referring to yourself or experiences you dealt with?
He's mysterious and very aware in things.
Really doesn’t matter.
I don't know how they think :-)
I think it’s kinda cute!
Probably unattractive.
indifferent
Red flag
How so?
Inexperienced
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