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This question is one where I have no way of answering myself but I was curious to ask regardless.

I think we are pretty much left to on our own, to sort out this side of life through trail and error— if even that. I think many people will go to their grave not even having rally been safe if what they needed emotionally. I recall reading when I was a kid that children need a minimum of 13 affectionate touches a day. I told my my great grandmother (who actually was the one affectionate person is ever known) would jokingly tap me 13 times every morning on my head 😂 I don't know where in the world they came up with that number it’s just funny bc it’s so ridiculous but was said with authority.

Anyhow I feel like a lot of people would be calmer snd happier and more helpful to others live healthier & probably longer, if that side of life was smoothed our. It’s really difficult tho to know what you need bc emotional needs - not material replacements - tho ubiquitous are unique & hard to market and so we don’t get much advertisement for them. Plus it’s not really something considered cool to talk about so I tbh k we get used to thinking of something basic as a special need for certain people who think about that stuff bc they need it.

im wondering how many of you give thought to your emotional well being & if you are aware of being content or feel wanting, etc etc

I met this guy 3 weeks ago at a concert. I went by myself. His friends approached me and we ended up hanging out for the night. He flirted but never made a move. His one friend was drunk and got my number before I left for the night. Next day, his friend asked me out, I politely declined, explaining I had chickened out from asking the guy I was interested in for his number. The friend said the guy heard me telling another guy I had a boyfriend (I don’t, I do this when I’m out alone to easily reject guys). The friend also sent me the guys number and said he thought I should text him. I did. We texted everyday for a week and he called me 3 or 4 times to chat. First time he called he said he was not a good texter and preferred calling (if I was good with that). Throughout the week we got to know each other a bit. He made sure I knew he lives a few hours away (he is moving soon tho), and that he is 9 years older than me. The last call we had was ~ half an hour and went really well. He teased me and called me nicknames, said his friends thought I was really cool, and mentioned different things we could do together. He told me he was going on a trip that weekend and at a music festival the following weekend so he would be super busy. He told me he was just a call away before we hung up.
I texted him the next morning responding to something he sent the night before. I asked a question about something we discussed on the call and he never responded to the text. A week after our last call, I had not heard from him so I texted again. I said I might be able to make time if he wanted call me again sometime that week. I figured I was likely getting ghosted, so I mentioned if he wasn’t feeling it that I understood and it would be no hard feelings. He texted back a couple days later adamantly saying he definitely wanted to keep talking. He never called though, and that was about 5 days ago now. Should I consider myself ghosted? If not, is it likely he’s just not very interested?