Commitment after 4 months?

[Sebby84]

Iv been seeing a guy for 4 months now its great however he makes no time for me at the weekend he always has something or other on. We aren't exclusive but at this point should we be would he still see if if he didn't want to? A fortune teller has warned me he will be hard to pin down and did predict a relationship at some point but if im to ask the questions ill push him away and scare him off he's been hurt before. Is there a way to approach this without doing that?

im so frustrated now and dont know what to do i feel lost should i leave before im left?

Updates

+1 y

We haven't moved backwards but we haven't moved forward either i feel we are quite a lot more intimate now but i still feel like i have a right to ask but if what im tolds true im scared to

[kylee2437]

The issue is , is you are avoiding reasonable communication with him so much to the point where you went to a fortune teller instead of just simply asking him. You need to gain the confidence to voice your opinion and what you want and not just entertain a guy because you want him. Your expectations need to be put above just wanting a guy because just because you want him, doesn’t mean he has the means to provide what you are looking for. 4 months is a very long time of not voicing your opinion of what you are looking for out of someone.

[Sebby84]

I didn't go to the fortune teller for that its just what i was told at the beginning of us seeing each other and its put me off asking anything

[kylee2437]

Honestly sounds like going to a fortune teller isn’t really helping you though regardless. It’s just holding you back from being grown up and properly pursuing a situation. You like this man but you are too afraid to speak up because what the fortune teller said, however this man may have lost interest within the four months because it seems like there’s been zero communication regarding the intent of why you two have been seeing each other. If a fortune teller is basically stopping you from healthy communication, sounds like this isn’t a healthy habit for you.

[Sebby84]

I know you’re right it just scares the shite out of me

[kylee2437]

Understandable, but what’s the worst he can say? He’s already not that interested in hanging , so you simply ask how he feels and if it’s not the answer you are looking for , at least that will give you a chance to move forward

[Sebby84]

No we see each other once or twice a week its just the weekends he's always busy with other things

[kylee2437]

So even more reason to ask him what is up with this situation