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I have been dating this guy for 5 years now. We recently got married in March. When we first started dating, everything was very nice. He was quiet, shy and sweet. We both went out on a lot of dates and were very affectionate with each other. After some years went by, things started changing a bit. We started going on less dates, sex has been dwindling down, etc. He caring less and less about what he says to me (hasn't called me out of my name yet) but he goes a bit too far when he jokes and when i let him know that, he gets all defensive about it. He tends to hide his phone a lot when im around. He's starting to not care about his personal hygiene that much. Im starting to feel more down because our relationship is not what it used to be...

I'm starting to wonder, did I make a mistake going through with the marriage?

Hey everyone, I (33F, African American) need some perspective on a recent conflict that arose between my boyfriend (31M, African American) and me. We've been in a long-distance relationship, as he lives down south while I'm up in the northeast. We had a strong emotional connection, exchanged love notes, and even discussed marriage. Here's where things got complicated. My mom is planning to visit his city in a few months, and she doesn't know about our relationship yet. I intended to reveal it to her once we became more serious. However, my mom has always insisted that I should only date Caucasian men, believing they would treat me better. I find her beliefs challenging to deal with, and we often argue about them. When I shared my mom's visit plan with my boyfriend, he encouraged me to go with her. However, I expressed my concerns about being in close quarters with my mom due to our strained relationship and her strong opinions about dating African American men. I wanted to be honest with him, as he deserved to know about my mom's views. Unfortunately, he became angry and went on a rant. He questioned why I didn't challenge my mom's beliefs and stated that he no longer had romantic feelings for me. He even listed his family's accomplishments and the fact that his parents are still together, highlighting the contrast with my own family situation. I was hurt by his reaction, and in the heat of the moment, I responded with a curt "ok good, bye," and blocked him on social media. Now, I'm feeling conflicted and would appreciate some perspective. Was I wrong to share my mom's views with him? How would you handle a situation like this? I'm open to hearing different opinions and understanding who might be at fault here. Thank you in advance for your insights.