Search Results: reasons for favors

My aunt (dad's oldest sister) has been living in Australia with her family. Once in a long while after several years, she visits us. We're stuck here in FL and can't live in Australia permanently like them. My aunt withdrew her petition and it's not the first time she refused to help my father in other ways. Something else happened between them that we can't even travel to Australia. She never did us any favors at all and is a distant person.

So last week she and my cousin came to visit us. They were asking when can I come over to visit them? I felt this was some type of sick joke or something. They are well aware of our situation that we can't ever travel to Australia and the likelihood of getting another chance over there is almost zero. They function similar to here in the US.

If you know very well someone can't ever travel (or is even banned) to a place for whatever reason, asking them ''oh are you going to visit us one day, when are you coming over'' isn't that a mockery?

I've become strict this year and developed boundaries. My mother confuses it for bitterness. I don't think so. Is what happened to me, the reason kind people are harder to find?

Emotional bullies:
At school, they take pleasure in humiliating you, have little to no empathy. They expect you to forgive and forget, act as if nothing happened when greeting you. This is the same as cleaning someone's mess and be ok with it.

Fake friends and family members.
I once forgave a female bully after a physical fight. I fell for her fake apology, fake tears and handshake. I didn't realize girls don't function the same way as guys. She faked it all for a year and gave me a fake phone number on my yearbook. Certain members in the family are only there for you during your success and good times but not during bad moments.

Takers:
The take and take... and the more kind you are... the more they take. They have no shame in how they're acting. However, if you need a favor all of the sudden they're busy, ghost you or are unavailable. They are online seeing your message and don't respond back. If they need a favor, they expect you to reply back quickly and help them.

Cheapskates:
This is different from saving money. They are the types that buy fancy, expensive things for themselves (it's always about them) but nothing for even their own mothers nor your own b-day. It's always a discount ticket or a cheap buffet, never spoiling you once at least. They are always broke but yet they're wearing expensive shoes, pretending to be wealthy. Or they invite you to their house just to watch a movie but real date.

Liars, lovebombers and scammers:
My ex boyfriend. He asked for money ($1,200) and never paid me back. He was a bum, vampire boyfriend too, lying about future plans and never progressing things. I learned he was really a sociopath that took pleasure in all that. He really wanted to drain all my fertile years for the sake of it. He lovebombed like crazy in the beginning and it was all lies.