What reason should I give him?

[Anonymous]

I was speaking regularly to my crush for almost a year, things seemed to be progressing well, then we just stopped replying to me. I would message him and ask how he is and start a conversation but he’d be very dry.
A couple weeks later he posted a photo with him and his ex, then I found out through someone else that they are back together. I didn’t contact him for 2 months for two reasons: out of respect for his relationship and tbh I think he could’ve told me something without blatantly ignoring me.

3 months has passed and he contacted me first. Turns out he wants a favor from me…. He also asked me why I stopped contacting him. Part of me wants to say the truth, yet part of me just wants to simply say “I was busy” or something and let it be. I have been detaching from him for 4 months and I don’t wanna get closer to him.

Any advice would be appreciated! Thank you 😊

[Shehnaz]

He already knows the truth, he knows it was his unjustifiable fault. Don't try to explain anything to, avoid him at all costs, after four months if distance it is much easier for you to get over him than it would be if you start any conversation with him. Deep within your heart it would be difficult to avoid him since he is trying to contact you, but trust me as soon as the favor that he expects from you is fulfilled he will again leave you in the lurch, why make your heart go through that pain again?

[Asker]

Thank you for your insight and advice!

You’re right! If I speak to him again I know deep down that it’ll be difficult to move on. I will try my best to keep strong and continue detaching. Thank you 😊

[Shehnaz]

You are welcome sweety, All the best for your All new life.

[MrHopper]

People only want to talk to you when they want something are always trouble, i had a few in my life and done similar to you. Just be honest and say that you stopped making an effort so i stopped as well, they didn't contact you right? ... i had people i not heard from in 6 years because i stopped.

[Asker]

Thank you for the response.

You’re right, I actually stopped contacting a friend of 10 years and I haven’t heard from her in many months lol.

Also, thank you, I will try to gather some bravery and be as honest as I can.

[MrHopper]

Best of luck! :) People are rubbish!