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I tried something new. Soooo normally when I’m caught off guard by adversarial energy, I shut down and become very cold and mechanical saying nothing beyond what I’d be ready or I walk away.

But I think lately how most often anger is just frustration amplified by fear and how stuff I get and about is sweetly if every bc of sone deregulated onion about another person or bc I want to hold power over someone…

So when this lesson unexpectedly got and and yelled , which immediately triggered me but instead of shutting down, I paused smiled and said “if I do not get mad, or sad - bc I won’t I promise ✋🏼 will you tell me why you are upset?”

They actually calmed down and told me what the problem was! and it turned out it was miscommunication 😅 I’m totally going to employ this strategy more.

I normally avoid responding to people who I think are being disrespectful bc it seems like a feel weak position t more bad behavior by accommodating, but instead I felt very much in control kind & trust worthy. It was awesome 👏🏼