I grow up in a family of 7, and I was the middle child. Financially, we were secure. However, we used to fight a lot as siblings, but that part was OK for the most part since it would be quickly resolved and things would return to normal.
What was not OK however were school/hood fights. I now realize that's not an ideal situation, but at that time I used to think that that's just how things are. I'm always surprised when someone tells me they have never been in a physical altercation in their life, but I digress.
See, we used to live in an apartment complex all 7 of us at some point so my parents could save enough money to move into a house outright. Money was not a problem, both of my parents were making enough and we had a nanny. We where a middle-class family that lived in an average middle class area, but the school I used to go to was not in the same block, so it was rough.
Everyday was a fight. I of course had to adapt, and at some point I became very aggressive myself that I had to unlearn some of it. I never complained to my parents once when I got beat up, and my parents would regularly get called to the principals office over me beating some other kid up for self-defense and going too far because of anger issues.
Soon as we moved and my parents sent me to a private school, it all stopped. I didn't have any problems fitting into my new surroundings and I did not instigate any fights or create any problems. It was rather the problematic environment that I was in that got the worst out of me a lot of the time, and most of my fights were in self-defense.
I'm almost 21 now, and I recognize the importance of martial arts/boxing training and anger management, I believe that combination is perfect. Learning how to fight will protect you in case you need to defend yourself, and anger management will make sure that you are not the aggressor attacking people over silly things.
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