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I posted this question and it got deleted because of the picture.

My girlfriend Donna had an abortion because we had an accidental pregnancy. I was fully supportive due to the fact that neither of us had kids or wanted kids. We agreed no kids=freedom and money.

Recently, it seems like me and Donna are not the same page. She doesn’t want children of her own but wants to play mom to other peoples children, and constantly pushing other peoples children in my face. Trying make to play dad to other people’s kids.

Donna wants me to inconvenience my life for her friend Lacey’s kids. Her friend Lacy has this nightmare child who out of control. Lacy’s daughter breaks stuff, screams nonstop, and not potty trained at the age of 4. This kid is the biggest handful. Yet Donna is always volunteering to babysit this kid whenever we have it planned to spend the day together, and constantly pushing Lacey’s kid in my face. The other day we had an argument because I didn’t want the kid sleeping in our bed. The kid ended staying in our room and ripped one of my sweaters and damaged my Xbox controller 🎮.

I planned a couples road trip for us to drive from Toronto to New York and Donna was gonna bring Lacey’s kid, so I cancelled. I figured there’d be no point in spending this kind of money and time on a trip just to deal with a screaming child. Earlier today Donna had the kid over and she damaged the carpet with glue. Gonna cost lots of money to repair.

I told Donna I’m not dealing with this bullshit anymore. Her response is “if you loved me you’d take care of her”.

Donna talks about adopting Lacey’s daughter, even wants to leave Laceys kids in her will. I don't know if this is grounds for a breakup!

I’ve been with my girlfriend for 2 years and our plan is to get married by December.
My girlfriend is dead set against us having kids. She doesn’t want kids but wants me to be a second dad to her friend’s kids. She’s even leaving her will to her friend’s kids.

I’ve never fancied the idea of kids. I don’t even like kids, accept recently I’ve been thinking it would be cool to see a mini me. What’s even worse is she’s pregnant right now and has an abortion appointment booked.

I’m ok with her not wanting kids, her body her choice. But I don’t wanna be responsible for someone else’s kids either. I never wanted to date a woman with kids, but I kinda think this is worse than dating a single mom.

So please tell me. Am I selfish? Or is she?