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@LaFemmeFatale_1 asked me something about my love life earlier… and it actually stuck with me and made me think…

I’ve known someone for a long time. He’s intelligent, funny, has depth… but opening up has always been a slower process for him. It’s something that unfolds over time…. Like a really long time. We started out as just friends and then we decided to try something more…

And then there’s someone I met more recently…

We could barely communicate at first because of the language barrier lol, but somehow we kept gravitating back to each other… laughing, losing track of what we were doing like it just flowed naturally. I actually posted about him some months ago and you guys were sharing with me how you’ve dated someone who spoke another language primarily.

What stood out to me though… was the effort. And even emotionally… he didn’t rush it, but he didn’t avoid it either.

He told me:

“De nada, con gusto… es bueno saber un poco y te diré poco a poco.” (I’ll tell you more little by little.) …And he did.

He’s also the guy I was talking about when I posted about going on a date.. and asking you guys whats a good first date… anyway..

That made me question something… because I feel like we tend to assume history means more.

But what if someone new is showing you more intention?

So what matters more to you in the end?

This is my gfs account I found her stuff on here and want to ask these questions

My girlfriend who is turning 30 next month asked me when I am going to propose and I told her not for another 5 years and she said thats too long and that we've been together 4 years. I told her that I want to have everything together mentally and money wise before that happens and she says she can't wait that long because of her biological timeline. I understand but she needs to understand that i need money before we have a kid and a stable house. She said that she wants me to propose next year or go to fertility appointments. I told her I dont see the purpose in getting her a engagement ring because you get married soon after and I want it to be special and not a memory of oh we were so broke and poor. I want to give her a amazing wedding and honey moon and she said she would do court house and camping. But I am not mentally prepared or ready for kids or marriage and I told her I already call her my wife to other people so I dont see the point. She says im being selfish and that im throwing her chance of motherhood away because im uncomfortable. I told her I would give her a kid first because I want it too badly but I need to be stable. What do you think i should do or say to her