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I have a crush on a male colleague. We have a flirty relationship and he teases me a lot. We make strong eye contact and he usually looks at me first when he enters the room. I have caught him staring. He has sometimes shown signs of jealousy, for example, getting somewhat annoyed when I had a lift to work off another guy. When I was away on holiday, someone asked if he missed me and he said “it’s quiet”. I have caught him looking at my body before and sometimes he has made sexual jokes (not very often). He does silly things to get my attention and he will tease me.

When we were tipsy, I told him I have a huge crush on him and eventually he admitted he felt the same way. However, recently he has said that he never means anything he says while drunk.

I was joking around today, and I told him “fuck you” to which he said “no thank you”

Do you think he likes me?

I was chubby growing up & always assumed losing weight would result in getting more attention from quality guys (not counting the catcalling that happened when I’d go to NY). Now, here I am at almost 30, in a taller/slimmer body (women’s US 10) & I’ve never been approached by a guy I’d actually consider dating. I used to get more attention (but not much compared to other women I knew) but it was usually from questionable guys. And I’m told I’m attractive yet these women I knew would get an abundance of attention from guys. While people told me I was more attractive than these women & these guys that approached them would eventually show they wanted a *good time* a majority of the time, I just never understood why I always seem to be overlooked by guys. On occasion, people would tell me that this & that guy would be looking at me/found me attractive, those were the same guys I found attractive but they NEVER made it known to me directly. I should feel better about myself & while I’ve become more comfortable in my skin over the years, this is truthfully an insecurity that I don’t think I’ll ever completely overcome. Am I just unlucky? Or are most women really that fortunate to have their pick of the litter? I’ve gotten attention from attractive guys on dating apps but it doesn’t hold the same value to me, compared to if those same guys approached me in person. When I say *approached*, I mean in any imaginable scenario: clubs, bars, grocery shopping, coffee shops etc.