Should I run from this man?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been talking to a guy for a week. We went out and hooked up once. The other night he asked me if I wanted to go for breakfast this morning. this morning told me he was taking his mother to the store and then getting coffee. An hour later, I said I’m just gonna go back to bed. He said I just got home. Good night. And he said he was going to do laundry and then shower to go to work right after. so then i called him out on standing me up and he apologized and understood. then I said again, going to go back to bed. He apologized again and I just said good night. His response was stop that I’m trying to give you attention. I felt weird about it.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hey, those are some major red flags from this guy. A few things stick out:

- He clearly lied about where he was this morning if he said he was with his mom but then texted you an hour later that he "just got home." Red flag number one.

- Standing you up after specifically making plans is messed up, and then lying about it is even worse. Red flag number two.

- Telling you to "stop that" when you rightly expressed being weirded out gives manipulative vibes. That's controlling behavior, red flag three.

You've literally only known this guy a week. I'd say cut your losses now before you get too invested, because these are some clear signs of not being trustworthy and potentially abusive behaviors down the line.

Any good guy would own up to flaking with a sincere apology, not give crap excuses and tell you what to feel. This one is waving red flags all over. Just not worth the risk sis. Plenty more fish and all that.

I think you'd be smart to ghost his ass and find someone deserving of your time who will treat you with respect from the jump. Don't second guess yourself - your gut is right on this one!

[spartan55]

So you've been 'talking to him' and gave him nsa sex after one date... are you really surprised he doesn't respect you?

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Run, as you should.. you go girl. There are men out there who will be much more respectful to you and won't waste your time.