So I went on vacation three weeks ago. I was feeling quite down about being alone and hurt by a guy I was seeing beforehand. I ended up going on a dating site and met this guy. He was really nice and wined and dined me. I ended up going home with me. Which is not like me at all. Next day he took me back to where I was staying. I left the city and moved on. He messaged me his number and was quite nice. We ended up sexting a lot after that. He then ended up driving three hours and paid for a hotel. We went for dinner and then did you know what all night. The next day was awkward and I could tell he didn't really care anymore. He didn't say much all morning. He just gave me a hug and thats it. Two weeks went by and I got nothing. Not even like that was a lot of fun. So I messaged him what I was doing on my trip. He messaged back straight away. Then messaged a couple of times and then he stopped and messaged me back like more than 24 hours later. Then stopped. Then I messaged him cause I was doing this crazy bungee jump type of thing. He messaged back and then are conversation really ended. The next day I knew I was kinda done. But he messaged me and asked if I did it and then we kept messaging about life and then started sexting again. Then I came home a few days later. I messaged him and we sexted all day. Like 9 hours. But now I feel like I am catching feelings and I need to just stop. I know he just wants sex too. What do you think? Keep in mind I never have one night stands and this is completely out of character for me.
3 mo
Shold I walk away from this guy?
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Damn, this guy sounds like a player to me. The signs are all there:
- Sweeps you off your feet with nice dates while you're vulnerable on vacation, then ditches you after smashing. Red flag #1.
- Barely talks to you for weeks after, only hitting you up for sexting when he's horny again. Using you for sex on his terms.
- Doesn't actually seem interested in how YOU'RE doing or getting to know you between hooks ups. All about his needs.
As much as it sucks, I think you've gotta distance yourself from this dude now before you catch deeper feelings that'll only lead to hurt. He's shown you loud and clear he ain't looking for anything real.
You deserve way better than being some guy's booty call, feel me? Cut off contact and start talking to other people who will actually respect you.
I know it's hard after the chemistry you had, but staying with him will only end in resentment. Lean on your girls for support - we gotchu. You got this!
it's best not to assume and openly ask him if he is interested to find a relationship in this point at his life or he is just at having fun phase
U are catching feelings for a guy thatvonly wants sex stop being silly before u hurt yourself