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So there's a guy i accidentally started chatting to on the dating app im on. he's not after anything long term and i wouldn't be interested as he has a kid but as i found him attractive i swiped right when he didn't have that on his profile.

He told me straight away what he was after, without any of the crap i had before that they wanted to meet without saying what they wanted.

I told him the truth about never done anything before and my health and that if he didn't wanna continue talking he didn't have to.

Now he hinted that i could use him as a way of preparing me for whats to expect when it comes to guys. I did say i have attachment issues but we did agree if it did happen thered be no kissing or dates etc

Only thing im concerned about is im saying there won't be anything risky happening but im not sure if he would be hoping for more.

I've said if were still talking by the time my birthday comes around (14th) that we'd meet for a drink not far from where i live (obv im not gonna tell him that) and see what comes of that

He sent me a few pics, one with pants and one without, even tho i did say to keep them on. But the last pic didn't reveal anything and they put a block on photos too risky

Tried to find him on fb to no use and he obv split from his girlfriend and has court orders (but then my brother does and he hasn't done anything wrong)

I'm hurting right now and very upset. My suspicious were confirmed just 2 days ago when my husband left his FB messenger open. It was messages between him and my SIL (sister-in-law). He admitted to her that he always loved his ex girlfriend Olivia from his much younger years. They met as 9 year-olds playmates, then dated for a short time in their Sophomore year of HS, she broke up the next year and met someone else.

The woman is married but still has him on his FB contact list as friends. He admitted to my SIL that he still loves her more than me. He loves me but I'm not really his first option. He would've wanted to have kids with her. He also said it was true what he once told me while drunk when we were just dating. Then this was the hurting part for me, the SIL asked if he would leave me if Olivia were to get divorced now and she reciprocated his feelings and he reply was a ''Yes, unfortunately I would leave (my name) but that'll never happen. I have to accept being in Olivia's forever friendzone''.

Flashback to the time we were just boyfriend and girlfriend:

We were drinking and while making love, he called me by her name. He literally said ''Oh Olivia, I love you... yeah''. Then tried to fix it right away when I got upset immediately. He called it a stupid drunken mistake and how we would never get drunk like that ever again and even reconfirmed me a bunch of times that he got over her already. I stupidly believed him.

Is this fair? We have a 7 year-old son and he's still obsessing over her? He never got over her and just got with me as second best.