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I made it clear to this man from the beginning that I wasn’t looking for anything casual or serious due to my past experiences. He initially seemed understanding and gained my trust, which led me to develop feelings for him. However, once I expressed my desire to take things slow, he started to pull away and make excuses.

On our date, he shifted dramatically when I still didn’t want to have sex… he became rude and insulting, and ultimately ghosting me afterward. It was clear he only wanted sex despite my boundaries, which felt predatory. This experience has been painful, and I’m still trying to process it.

So I was kicked out of a group for exposing a man and people felt that I was “bitter” and called me “crazy” for speaking my truth on this man. It was a very invalidating experience.

Let me be clear on why I’m exposing him…

1. He did not respect my boundaries when it came to having sex and ended trying to use manipulation. I made it clear to him before we exchanged numbers that I wasn’t in a space to have sex or be in a relationship. He kind of wanted to know why etc and he wasn’t pushy.. but he said things he felt I NEEDED to hear… and at first I’m thinking wow maybe he is genuine and understanding. Looking back it was hard to see his “coercive behavior…” to get what he wanted and wanted to gain my trust. Even saying how can I make you feel safe

2. Subtle changes in behavior after telling him that I wanted to take things slow with him and gaslighting.. I did end up liking him and when I said that… that’s when it started taking hours for him to respond and then it went to days… only to get a “sorry really busy”…. But it kept happening and I confronted him and he tried to say that I needed to “heal”….. but it was strange behavior coming from a man who was trying to make me feel “safe” initially…

3. Disrespect… (devalue/discard) everything was cool on the date at first but then he became disrespectful and rude… he started asking when I last had sex, dildos, negging behavior and some insults.

4. Not being honest about his real name even on the date.. I asked him if “Craig” was his real name and he said yes… I get you want to protect yourself but he really did not want to tell me his name and seemed annoyed when I asked. It was very fishy

5. After the “date” i tried finding a “gf”…. Bc i felt like he was talking to someone.. he has no social media presence and keeps things private

6. He is possibly bisexual or closeted based on some things I found

It sounds silly but he’s in his late 40’s and recently divorced….
He seems to flirt back, been complementing me more recently. He called me smart and then his cheeks went red and he looked down.

He seems to enjoy my flirting (he has a big smile on his face when I flirt) and he’s been blushing a lot around me lately… and conversations have started getting deeper. I dunno.

What’s the chances that he likes me back?

I think I am too young for him though 🤷🏼‍♀️

Also he’s not conventionally attractive and a bit out of shape so maybe he hasn’t made a move because he doesn’t think I actually like him? Not sure. Or maybe he’s not interested?

I also tell him a bit about my sexual experiences and funny sex stories and he’ll happily sit there and listen with a smile on his face… surely he would’ve said something if I had crossed a line? Or changed the subject?

He’s a very sweet man and he sometimes seems quite nervous around me. I’d also say he’s sensitive and a bit submissive. Which I find adorable. 🥰
But something strange is that he calls me mate over text… hmmm…. Is he trying to make it clear that he only sees me as a mate? Or would he just call everyone mate?