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I had annoyed him so he said he hated me, hated time with me, hated going out with me in public, hated sex with me it was just to keep me sweet

Then a few days later said he just said it. He loves time with me, he loves me and sex is the best he’s had

Then again same thing happened this week he said he didn’t want to see me anymore and he hated how I am in public and tried to lie and say he hadn’t started sex that week when he had. Said time together wasn’t bad but wasn’t good that week.

We’ve lived together for 9 months. In those 9 months we’ve spend 4 nights a week together and had sex 4 x per week. We always had a laugh, he told me he loved me daily. Phoned me daily at work for an hour when he had to drive cars about. Said he was excited for dates. He also started the sex 2 times per week. Some weeks there was more some less. He told me loads how happy he was with me etc.

He asked me a few times for dates and I asked him a few times too. I usually asked him for time together but he always did it. Or hed say find something to watch.

We’d have 5 perfect days a week then he’d go weird for 2 days a week.

Did he mean those things or was it just to hurt me?

My boyfriend and I have been long-distance dating for closer to 4 years, and it's been a rollercoaster for many reasons. But, recently, we both finally had an opportunity to spend a night together at a hotel and enjoy ourselves. As soon as we walked in since I had not seen him for some time, he wanted sex. I wanted to do it as well because, mentally, I thought it would be fun for us both. However, while we were doing it, he kept telling me not to take my shirt off and other stuff that seemed distant. He finished and was quiet, giving a stand-offish vibe afterwards. I kept asking him what the issue was, and he insisted it was nothing. Finally, once I got ready for the event he wanted to go to, he stated that he was worried about my health since I had gotten "bigger."

My weight has fluctuated a lot throughout the years in early adulthood, especially with working and college. When we met, I was on the smaller side, but it was an unhealthy time for me, hardly eating. I got on the hormonal IUD for him, and that caused me to gain a lot of weight.

I started crying and asked if he was ashamed of me, if he was still wanting me in that way, the works basically because of my body. He apologized a while later about it, and admitted saying that I deserve better which was also weird. I'm not sure how to really feel or go about this since he is health-crazy and wants to make sure I live a long life with him. However, his behavior did not match up to what he was saying. I mentioned it to a few friends to which they said that he might have seen better and now has a desire for that, or he's using health as a scapegoat to cover up his lack of wanting me now. What do you think? I'm afraid he doesn't find me attractive anymore but the weight is mainly because of him wanting this birth control in me. Do you think he is just using me for sex/companionship? Does he actually love me?