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9 months ago I got a new working student job where I was assigned 2 supervisors. From the very beginning I felt like everyone was very disinterested in me as if it was so obvious that I’m the most boring person in the world.

At first I assumed that maybe it was because I was just a temp but later I noticed that everyone, especially my supervisor, got along great with other students as if they were best friends despite the age gap of 20 years.

With me however it is the exact opposite, my supervisor even avoids walking next to me and walks ahead or behind me which I find quite rude, is super short and dry even though we only discuss work related topics and sometimes seems uncomfortable and very disinterested in me but makes small talk with every other student (they don’t even work together) just fine, his work wife makes a face when she sees me even though we never talk. I was also left out of a WhatsApp group that was supposed to Organise after work events (even new interns where in this group). It almost feels like I offended someone even though nothing ever happened.

I just don’t understand why almost everyone reacts so negatively to me from the very beginning. I’m not ugly, Im told that I dress nicely, i don’t smell, I’m not rude or loud. These people just assume by looking at me that I must be unworthy of their acquaintance. It is most likely nothing about metoo since many married peope flirt around here. Does anyone have similar experience or maybe an idea what could be the underlaying reason because it is really upsetting me?

It has happened to me once and to my 2 female friends. We were 16 year-olds at the time but he was mature for his age. I actually did fell in love with him for both his looks and other traits such as a good, family-oriented boy, he was kind to others and liked reading and liked animals. He thanked me, said he felt flattered but wasn't interest in a romantic relationship, though we can be friends. I could tell he had a hard time saying all that.

If he would've rejected me harshly, called me bad names, acted grossed out or made a scene out of it, yeah I would've hated him forever or probably had self-esteem issues. It still hurt but much less than if he had been rude. We're still friends till this day and both of us dated others.

This happens to guys too. Who do you think gets hurts the most? The man or the woman?