He and I went our separate ways 6 months ago. He would watch all my stories and engage online with me when we first split, then tried to talk to me during a party about our situation. I was drunk tbh and don’t remember much. I tried to have a sober conversation with him the next day but he refused and ignored me. I apologized if I said anything wrong but I don’t know what I would have said, it’s not in my character to be mean or rude even while intoxicated. It really affected me that I couldn’t talk to him. We still followed each other but didn’t engage online and neither does his friends. When I see him in public we are always kind towards each other and hug and say hello so there is no negativity. I did notice last month he posted a song he wrote about us and how he blamed himself for his lack of communication with me. I didn’t react to it since it wasn’t sent to me directly. He later deleted it.
Now I noticed he unfollowed me and I unfollowed him back. I think he may have someone else he’s interested in. I definitely have been doing some digging and seen a girl comment on every single photo he post and engaging with other people’s comments under his post so I just assume it’s because of that. I just need to let it go honestly but venting and asking is helping me. I feel I’m searching for answers online because I never got the chance to really speak to him, I just remember saying that I felt I was putting more effort into him than he was into me.
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That's a tough situation. A few thoughts:
- Seems like things weren't fully resolved between you guys when you split. Leaving things up in the air like that makes it harder to fully move on.
- Maybe he felt awkward/weird about still following you after not talking for so long, especially if he's into someone new now. Unfollowing was just his way of creating more emotional distance as he starts something with this other girl.
- Doesn't necessarily mean he's trying to be rude or disrespectful by unfollowing. Social media is weird like that - people unfollow exes all the time just as part of the breakup process.
- Him deleting that song about you suggests he was in a vulnerable mindstate but probably doesn't want to broadcast all that to the world anymore now.
Best thing in my opinion is just to take the hint, leave it be, and fully unfollow/detach on socials too if that helps you feel better moving forward. Seems like things weren't totally resolved, but you got your answer that he's onto someone new now and that chapter is closed. Time to start focusing on you! Plenty more fish and all that. You'll bounce back.
Maybe he wants to see less of you as he is afraid you have moved onn and can’t afford to see you with another man.