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So my best friend has been feeling down the past month or so and since I no longer live in the same state as her I can’t physically be there for her. But I am also 8 months pregnant and barely have the energy to do anything even working has been a struggle. We didn’t text for over a week, not my fault she just never responded but read my message. Gets upset today because I didn’t check in on her but when I have been she barely responded.

At the end of the day I feel as though if you’re depressed it’s understandable & I’m giving the best advice I can give. But your situation is not going to go above mine when I’m pregnant and she barely checks on me. Plus she isn’t doing anything to get herself out of the depression so it’s not up to me to solve that problem. She hasn’t asked about me, she hasn’t asked if the baby has been okay but wants this title as a god parent.

In a way she tries to guilt trip me saying well our communication isn’t the same since you’ve been pregnant blah blah blah. Like what does my personal life have to do with YOU not responding. And honestly I have no energy to cater to someone else when we’re both grown and I have a husband and a baby on the & work full time.

I always acknowledge her feelings but today I had enough of the pity party bullshit. And when I told her “ I've reached out to you and you rarely respond now I give you space because no matter what I say or whatever advice I give your going to feel how you feel you need work on your shit” I got no response again. Im mot going to kiss ass or pity someone who just expects someone to always be there when they can’t!

I have been with my husband for 7 years and we have a 1 year old daughter together. I also have a 9yo son from my previous relationship and my husband has adopted him. His family has always been toxic but it's always been in a "I feed off drama" way and nothing more. However, they really upped it last year. Basically my sister in laws husband hit my 9yo son in the back of the head out of anger (my son was playing tag with his cousin and ran inside and the door slammed behind him). It was a hard hit. Cops were called and the police did nothing because there was no witnesses outside of me and they called it a "he said she said" thing and stated that we needed to work through our own family conflict. They claimed my son wasn't a reliable witness because he wouldn't speak to them (he's incredibly shy, has ASD and was just assaulted by a grown ass man so he was already scared - he just kept hiding behind me saying "mum can you just tell them" and they took this as me making shit up and leading my son to say something that wasn't true).

When my sister in law found out what happened she was initially on our side and scolded her husband. But he threatened to divorce her, so she did a 180° and started claiming her husband did nothing wrong and that he only hit my son because my kid has been repeatedly told not to slam doors and didn't listen so her husband had an "impulse reaction" and claimed "no harm, no foul" because my son was fine. So, I cut all contact and when our daughter was born we refused to let her anywhere near her despite her being extremely excited for the baby and having made all these customized items for her. She was destroyed over it but oh well. Don't defend a child abuser.

Well, here it is a year later and my mother in law brought it up randomly and stated "I understand completely why he hit your son." So I told her to leave and she wasn't welcome back here around my children. Now my husband is upset because he wants his mother around.