Me and my child's father can't agree on planning for the baby shower what do I do?

[Anonymous]

Im pregnant and me and the father are arguing because he came up with the idea to sell alcohol at our baby shower to "make extra money" in case family members show up without a gift. I told him that I felt like having alcohol could be seen as ghetto and that I had no intention of "accommodating" anybody who shows up empty handed with the option to buy liquor. I don't even want people drinking at my baby shower but if they decide to drink I don't want to set the expectation that I'm okay with it by selling alcohol. My child's father accused me of being controlling and said he will no longer help me plan the baby shower. I told him if he wants to throw a rager party he could do it on his own time but that I would not do it for my baby shower. I also told him if he insists on pushing alcohol at the baby shower he can throw it but I won't show up. A baby shower without the mother present would look absolutely ridiculous obviously. All I want is for him to be mindful that me and my family won't be okay with anybody drinking heavily around us especially at an event like MY baby shower. I expect the guests to have decorum I have no intention of setting the tone that this special moment in our life is about anybody other than our expected child. He basically insists that his family won't feel comfortable not being able to loosen up and expects ME to be uncomfortable to make the guests he wants to invite comfortable at an event that is for MY first child. He is being extremely selfish and childish. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Dude, that's pretty cool that your girlfriend is always getting you new clothes! I don't know if it's like, totally "normal", but it doesn't seem too weird to me.

If she's got the money to spend on you and she enjoys doing it, that's kinda nice of her. Some girls just really like shopping and dressing up their boyfriends, you know? As long as she's not forcing you to wear stuff you're not comfortable with, it's probably not a big deal.

It's pretty sweet that you've got a whole new wardrobe just from her buying you stuff. Just roll with it, man. Gotta enjoy that girlfriend perk while you can! Just don't go expecting her to keep it up forever. Eventually you'll probably have to start buying your own clothes again.

But for now, just let her have her fun. It could be worse - she could be making you wear lame stuff you hate. As long as you like the new clothes, then it's all good. Enjoy the free fashion upgrades!

Dude, that's pretty cool that your girlfriend is always getting you new clothes! I don't know if it's like, totally "normal", but it doesn't seem too weird to me.

If she's got the money to spend on you and she enjoys doing it, that's kinda nice of her. Some girls just really like shopping and dressing up their boyfriends, you know? As long as she's not forcing you to wear stuff you're not comfortable with, it's probably not a big deal.

It's pretty sweet that you've got a whole new wardrobe just from her buying you stuff. Just roll with it, man. Gotta enjoy that girlfriend perk while you can! Just don't go expecting her to keep it up forever. Eventually you'll probably have to start buying your own clothes again.

But for now, just let her have her fun. It could be worse - she could be making you wear lame stuff you hate. As long as you like the new clothes, then it's all good. Enjoy the free fashion upgrades!

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, that's pretty cool that your girlfriend is always getting you new clothes! I don't know if it's like, totally "normal", but it doesn't seem too weird to me.

If she's got the money to spend on you and she enjoys doing it, that's kinda nice of her. Some girls just really like shopping and dressing up their boyfriends, you know? As long as she's not forcing you to wear stuff you're not comfortable with, it's probably not a big deal.

It's pretty sweet that you've got a whole new wardrobe just from her buying you stuff. Just roll with it, man. Gotta enjoy that girlfriend perk while you can! Just don't go expecting her to keep it up forever. Eventually you'll probably have to start buying your own clothes again.

But for now, just let her have her fun. It could be worse - she could be making you wear lame stuff you hate. As long as you like the new clothes, then it's all good. Enjoy the free fashion upgrades!

[petitedollbabee]

It’s a baby shower, not a birthday or wedding where you have alcohol. Sorry but he’s pretty stupid to want alcohol there. You can’t drink because you’re pregnant, it makes no sense to have alcohol present, and people should come to celebrate the new addition to the family, not get drunk. Stand firm with your decision and if he wants to back off from planning the shower then let him do that, don’t let him blackmail you. If his family need alcohol just to attend an important celebration like that then that says more about them than it does about you.

[Apple1996]

a lot of men throw beer and diaper parties. Basically like a guy baby shower where they drink beer and everyone brings a box of diapers. A more formal baby shower shouldn't have alcohol. More like a tea and dessert type of vibe, play fun little games and open gifts. I suggest y'all have two baby showers. One for guys and one for girls

[Flower7]

Even without the item being alcohol, the concept of selling something to people because they didn’t bring a gift is trashy. What if the person is having financial problems?

[MannMitAntworten]

Gone are the good ol’ days when only women did baby showers and ‘maybe’ the men did something else somewhere else.


Selling booze seems more like a money loser than any sort of perceived gains to be made.

[Nikki1989]

Who has alcohol at a baby shower?