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I was at the mall today and this guy stopped me to tell me I’m gorgeous.

I looked around to see if it was a prank and ultimately said no. And I thanked him for being sweet

then I tried to leave and he got in front of me to stop me, I said I was in a hurry.

he said I was too beautiful for this opportunity to just slip by and if I could just take his number

I said no sorry I’m in a hurry. I didn’t want to say I’m too old, I just knew it and wanted to leave and he got in-front of me again and insisted I take his number so I did it.

so he’s texting me now and I told him I’m more than 10+ years older than you so this is not gonna work, wish you the best.

but he insists that it can work because I’m exactly his type. He says

and what’s weirder is that I wasn’t wearing any makeup at all! And wearing large oversized pants and large oversized shirt. How is this even attractive. I feel strange.

I almost never go out. I don’t have a partner and don’t have kids.

I want family as most do, but I think a 27 year old will not stay with me because of the age even if he says he feels im his type.

what’s your guy’s advice?

I know plenty of women who by 40 are already done with relationships, already had kids and just want to have fun, maybe that type is the type most 27 year olds would want because it’s just a “fun time” and then move on..

but I’m different. I’m not done with relationships because I’ve never had one. I’m not done with kids because I’ve never tried to have one before. I’m want a permanent partner, love and a little family.

If he insists I need to just keep saying no right?

we look about the same age but the fact remains I’m 10+years older

Hey Guys and Gals!

Hope you're all having a great week!

I was chatting with a friend to coordinate our next meet up and we kept looking at calendar dates and sighing at one another, "I can't meet that day, I'm busy." Of course this was a genuine "I'm busy" however there are a number of people who use the "I'm busy" as a catch-all excuse to brush someone off as well. It sort of looks like this:

• (Blanket claim prior to invites.) I'm a really busy guy/gal...
• (When meeting a person and asking their availability.) I work late (with no end in sight for the foreseeable future)...
• (When meeting a person and asking their availability.) I tend to get really busy...
• (When a meetup is suggested.) I'll check my schedule and get back to you...
• (Last minute cancellation of a meetup.) Oooh. I can't. Next time...
• (When a meetup is suggested.) Sure. We'll talk...
• (My personal fave...) I'm a busy person (when you already know the person well and know they're not busy).

Obviously in the case of these and similar brush offs the person is just saying they can't be bothered to spend time with YOU. So I then feel bad when I do use the expression "I'm busy" (or it's equivalent) even though I genuinely AM very occupied with some project or client! (Sigh... )

So now I'll put it out to the group (and please be honest):

1. Do you use the "I'm busy" copout?

2. How often?

3. With whom?