Search Results: Are You Liked By Shallow People

The question is inspired by recognition of "Black History Month", and specifically the meaning of that relates to "African Americans".

Would you [anyone] find it of value to to trace your heritage back to countries and regions? Is that a tool that provides a greater sense of self and identity? I've done that to some extent. The issue I perceive is the lost connection to the past for so many African americans and maybe that is true of other peoples as well. Thus a corrective measure, and possibly one that could be provided... free of charge..., to those whom no fault of their own, had their identities damaged or lost over history. That is one aspect of "reparations", restoration of identity, now possible, by technology.

As I think about how people identify their nationality, very often it's to some large social "national" or "regional" grouping, which forms unique cultural behaviors... usually in accent, language, food preferences, attire, movement/dance, etc.. These are all positives of cultures that people appreciate, feels good, and maybe even provides health!

For example, I've met these people in my life when I ask about them:

"I'm haitian and chinese!".. eventhough he's American.

I met an AA woman, she was very German, but American!

I met a young man in a shop, dark color, with a mask... he's Haitian... I couldn't discern the accent over the mask. He quickly reciprocated my french in even better French!

Nationality, culture adds depth and connection. With all of it comes assumptions, but further interest.

Nobody says North American, few say South American, African, or Asia. Very general associations.

Colors when used... are basic, very shallow. I don't know anyone when asked to make a presentation announces, "Hi, I'm black and yellow... I'm a bee!" It makes no sense, but these are used in media, govt forms... as media is shallow.

I've read and heard that you shouldn't date anyone younger than 22. people who marry young get divorced much more often than older people.

every relationship I've had has taught me a lot, so I understand why older people are less likely to divorce - they have more experience and have learned more lessons, so they know what they're getting into and know how to handle it better. BUT every serious relationship I've had has caused me and the ex a lot of pain.

so, why do we, as young people (I'm 22 by the way), want to get into serious committed relationships when it's almost guaranteed to end painfully? ESPECIALLY in college when we probably live far apart over the summer and will probably end up far apart after college is over.

I want really badly to have a girl to share life with and learn about and love another person, and to have sex be about love, discovery, communication, appreciation, and excitement instead of just satisfying my shallow needs. BUT I don't know if it's worth the inevitable pain that is very likely to come when the relationship ends.

what do you think people?